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Your feelings are not facts.
Being offended, doesn't mean you're in the right and the other person is in the wrong.
Just because your religion says something (or claims it does), doesn't put you in the right.
Everyone would agree with that. But they're lying to themselves.
On the corollary, someone's feelings can be a very important factor in addressing a situation. If you are to operate purely on logic, that logic needs to take into account the psychology and feelings of others when making a decision to maximize your intended effect. Doing something that "needs to be done" but pissing everyone else off in the process might lead them to undo your work purely out of spite, even if you were correct in your initial assessment.
Eh. Feelings are facts; I would feel upset if someone shot my dog, that's a fact. Reacting to inputs is a normal thing to do, and it can be a healthy and important thing to do.
If somebody says something factual and offensive and thinks because they've stated something objectively true, that they should be immune to social repercussions, at best they're tactless, at worst they're cowards who don't want the responsibility of how the things they say affect those around them. If it's important, needful of saying, and likely to upset people, grow a backbone and own it. If it's not important and likely to upset people, maybe don't be a dick.
I just realized that feelings are, in fact, facts. On what level, that would need to be determined.
It is only a fact that you feel xyz. It does not remotely mean that xyz is true.