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Nah, i didnt even look for a study, thats why i mentioned that. I figured the examples i gave where enough to get the point across, the point being what I stated at the end. As far as the equating masculinity with violence, imma be honest, I don't really want to think about deeper topics right now. I wasnt trying to take anyones side, just comment an observation that I have made.
And yeah, white knighting is seen as cringe and definitely not the default, but its common enough that theres a well known term for it. The cringe part though for me is injecting yourself into a situation without knowing the facts, not the defending of a woman. Although I'm a pretty hardcore feminist, so I don't tend to look at too many things under the lens of a man or woman, I generally just pretend as though gender/sex don't exist when i interact with people to get rid of any bias.
Gender blindness is generally not considered a feminist approach to interpersonal relationships.
If I'm not trying to get in your pants, your sex shouldn't matter.
And I don't know why I would treat women differently then men, so I'm not sure why I need to take gender into account either.
It's different if were discussing things that are gender/sex exclusive, like periods or something.(I can't offer gender exclusive issues bc i cant think of any that arent just gender roles, which i despise) But for casual conversation why does gender matter?
To be clear, I am not trying to convert you here, I just figure you can give me a better explanation if you understand where im coming from.
I'm not sure if you realize that it was me that you were replying to elsewhere in this thread, but I think you actually answered own question. In a vacuum, it shouldn't matter, but in reality, it does. When "randomly" picking who coordinates social events, or work happy hour, is it generally a woman? When you're talking about introducing a new idea in the office and you check with a colleague, is it always the same sex? When someone at work asks for a moment of your time, who are you finding immediate time for? I'm not saying that you have a gender bias, I am just saying that society has a gender bias, and often people don't realize their subconscious gender bias. If you're not paying attention, you can definitely fall into societal assumptions about gender without even realizing it. Heck, you might even find that you are white knighting, and helping women more than men. Maybe you never fall into those issues, but most feminist theory thinks it's important to be at least conscious of this sort of thing.
I kept it mostly work related, because interpersonal relationships are all different and I don't really know anything about you or the kind of interpersonal relationship you would have, but it generally applies to those as well. Obviously, the work examples are also quite specific for a specific kind of job, but hopefully it gives enough of a picture that you could extrapolate how unconscious bias could affect all kinds of jobs and not just insert sitcom office job here.