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oh god no. that post sucks ass.
rant, CW: talking about porn and kink, specifically choking
i've noticed this rhetoric, that porn addiction isn't a thing, multiple times here lately. i don't quite get it, but it seems like they're trying to excuse porn consumption as, likee something that doesn't impact anything? which seems very incorrect to me. as someone in bdsm spaces (insert joke about ace ppl being rly into kink here), we've noticed an increase in hardcore acts being normalized in vanilla spaces. this coincides with them being normalized more in porn. the most obvious one is choking. breath play is really fucking dangerous and requires clear consent, but since it's normalized in porn (where consent can HOPEFULLY be discussed off camera), it becomes normalized in vanilla, where consent rules are NOT really heavily used.and you can argue this is an issue with most cishet ppl, "normal sexually liberated people" as said in the post, not understanding consent, but acting like porn had no influence on this trend is craaazy. and acting like people are evangelical freaks for being concerned about the normalization of hardcore sexual acts through porn makes me s upset
also acting like it's not a real addiction people deal with is super invalidating. obviously anything can be addictive.
i really hope this doesn't become a trend, since this is the only like, site i can use that isn't overly horny and exploitative all the fucking time
Holy fuck. I used to be heavily into kink and into some kinda extremely play, but like what happened to RACK? You can straight up die when breathplay is involved.
The risk is small, but you need clear consent and a plan for what if heart attack etc. Holy shit we used to be dorks swapping lists of what we were into or willing to consider before ever doing a scene. Has the culture gotten that fucked?
One time someone slapped me without discussing it prior and I had to give that mfer a lecture about cranial and spinal anatomy, consent, and the importance of bracing the skull. I thought that was an extreme mistake.
In my experience, at least in my local area, the actual kinksters shy away from choking quite a bit, it's the more vanilla-leaning people who choke a lot.
Casuals ruining shit for everyone smh my head.
Medical people are the best play partners. All the anatomical knowledge to be safeish and insane with the unphased affect of someone who has rearranged some organs.