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I don't have bipolar disorder myself, but I have friends who have it and have dated women who have it.
So, without speaking from the POV of someone actually dealing with the issue, all I can say is that in my experience, it's absolutely manageable.
The issue I've noticed seems to be with the medication. I've had a friend tell me he hated the side effects so he didn't keep taking them, and would thus swing into a manic or depressive episode until he'd start back on the meds. Similarly, I've heard of people (but not met personally) who take the meds for some time, decide that the meds worked and they don't have the condition anymore and then stop taking the meds. Only, of course, to swing into bipolar episode.
It's definitely got to suck, but I think if you all listen to his doctors (even though one made a mistake by taking him off the meds, they're human, too) and he is able to manage his medications you will all be ok.
I can't speak to his relationship. That's gonna be between them, but it's probably best for all parties to read up on bipolar disorder so they can better know what to expect and what not to fear. I have a coworker whose husband is bipolar and not the best with his meds from what I understand, and while she has some interesting/funny stories and long nights sometimes, they still seem very happy together.
I guess all that is to say: It sucks, but his life definitely isn't over lol. Listen to the doctors, maybe get him into some sort of therapy (if he's open to it), and stick with meds that work. My bipolar friends are all kind, mostly successful, good people. For some, I wouldn't even know had they not told me.
He is open to therapy, but we are in the US, so there are challenges. However, I have excellent health insurance through my employer, and he works for the same employer, so when he ages out of my plan, he'll be able to sign up for the same insurance.
The other detail about him is he's one of the most caring, kindest people I know. There is really no chance he will hurt someone else, except that if he hurts himself it will hurt the people who care about him.