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Lemmings who have personal experience with bipolar disorder (self, family, or friends), how hopeless is the situation, really? (lemmy.world)

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My son has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He's in his mid-twenties, so it's the average time for onset of bipolar disorder. No family history that we know of, but if it was just two generations back, it probably wouldn't have been talked about.

He had his first manic episode early in the year. He spent a brief time in in-patient treatment, followed by a period of out-patient treatment. During the out-patient treatment, his psychiatrist started to think the diagnosis was incorrect and she weaned him off his meds.

He has had another manic episode, and he's back in the in-patient facility. Luckily he was able to get back into the same place he was in before, so they aren't starting from zero. They started him back on different meds, and he's much better much faster than the first time.

His fiancee was talking to a friend and someone overheard. The person who overheard said her mother was bipolar and she had to take her to the hospital six times, and she told his fiancee that she should break up with him.

The only experts I've spoken to have been the doctors in the crisis center, and I don't know to what degree they are trying to sugar coat things to prevent us from giving up hope.

I'd rather know the reality.

If anyone has any personal experience they can share, I'd appreciate it. If anyone has any professional experience they can share, I'd appreciate that as well.

EDIT: Just wanted to add to this that we were able to visit him today, and he's doing very well.

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[–] jrgn@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Type two here, with depression starting when I was 13. Was diagnosed at 21. Mostly struggled with depression and hypomania, and the rapid change between the two. Being diagnosed was maybe the best thing that happened to me. Everything fell into place. It took about 7 years to get the treatment just right, but the medication was mostly working after a year or two.

I've been to a lot of meetings, and I know a lot of bipolar people. The thing with bipolar is that when you get the medication right and you do the work, the disease is really manageable. But one of the most frustrating part of the disease is that many suffering from it are not taking their meds or not doing the work. And you can't force them to either. You can lead a horse to the water, etc. I have been really focused on getting better, but I see the appeal to just don't do it. One tends to see the disease through rose-tinted glasses. And it is work to just be "normal". So just saying fuck it and ride the nice initial waves of hypomania/mania can be really tempting. But there is nothing good coming out of that.

I highly recommend reading An Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison (and her other books for that matter), she is an expert in bipolar. Both as a psychologist and as a bipolar person herself. Wishful Drinking by Carrie Fisher was also good. I think it is good to try to understand why bipolar people think and do as they do. I do recommend support groups too. Where I'm at there are group meetings 1-2 times a week. Relatives are welcome too. Sometimes there are meetups for relatives only too.

I wish you all the best, and just know that it is possible to live a full and great life as bipolar. There are medication and life-style changes that does wonders, the hard part is sticking with it.