I think you need to be on a subdued position by society to be considered as "struggling". Incels accept their condition completely and are not in a vulnerable position when related to society. Unless you call being called out for "mental health" problems as submission.

Being weak doesn't mean you're subdued, I bet incel's existence is profitable to someone. All in all, I don't wish you a time trying to "care" for these people, I don't think they would care for you. Unless you call "care" throwing them into some mental institution for something's sake.