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Examples:

  • Kid's electronic toy that we loved is broken. Instead of throwing it away, I put it in a box because "surely, I'll find the time to fix it"
  • After moving, valuables are "temporarily" in plastic bags, because I'll buy & assemble a showcase soon enough.

None of these things ever happen. I make the planning as if I did not an attention disorder. Although I had it all my life.

Now that I'm in treatment, I would have thought that my brain works in a way I'd need to get used to. But no, it just works in the way I always assumed when I made a plan.

It's just so strange that the planning seems to assume an intact prefrontal cortex, rather than adjusting to how it actually works.

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[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 4 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

Visual cues and reminders are imperative for me. And I need to be reminded over and over. And with some things, I need to KNOW that the reminder will keep popping up until I take care of the thing.

Also, starting new tasks that involve things I either haven’t done for a long time, or have never done before are EXTREMELY difficult for me. I haven’t figured this one out yet, but I am toalla planning on going over this with my therapist in my next session (Which of course I was certain to plan with him last time, in the certainty that I would forget if I did not.)

Also you have to force yourself to accept that good enough is almost always going to be superior to perfect, because perfect means it’s never getting done.