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I hope this doesn't come off as mean but I wonder if there are people with a legimate irantional fear of drag queens like some people are afraid of clowns
drag is literally just a gay clown show.
i don't have an aversion to clowns but i do have an irrational dislike of drag, i wouldn't say "fear" but i have a definite aversion.
i think the makeup and costumes are awful, i think the shows are awful, and i think the elevated place and disproportionate spotlight in "queer culture" that it occupies is awful, and think the way i'm straight up not allowed to talk about how the local "queens" spent months nearly harassing me to suicide over my appearance when i was early in transition for the sin of being trans and working at a store in "their" neighborhood, is really really fucking awful.
yeah i might hate drag shows and drag culture a bit. i'm sure it's totally irrational and an issue with me being informed about a historical drag culture that flat out no longer exists and is surely nothing to do with the scene and community i experienced as they exist today.
imma still come out swinging at nazis to defend them tho. not one inch, these are my bastards.
I'm sorry your local drag community sucks so much. There's definitely drama in our local scene, but on the whole it's very much a trans-inclusive space here. A lot of the big names in my area are trans themselves.
I hope you get to find that someday, because a good drag scene is welcoming, and it's a great way to express complex feelings about gender and deconstructing societal norms and expectations. But when it's done badly, it can be really bad.
Swing away my friend
i mean, if i have an aversion to football, that doesn't mean i hate everyone who plays it or enjoys it
drag shows should be viewed the same way i think
Maybe? The fear of clowns is often rooted in the uncanny. The obscuring makeup of clowns makes their emotions and expressions either so overly exaggerated or difficult/impossible to read which messes with the lizard brain and makes them seem to some people, particularly ones who have issues with reading facial cues, as inhuman. It's sort of the same principle that freaks people out about dolls and mannequins. That almost but decidedly not quite human alarm.
Drag makeup generally serves the opposite purpose. It is exaggerated but in such a way as to be easier to read the performer's face at a distance.