(A funny meme for you, if you’re wondering about the picture)
So to preface, like everyone else, I came from reddit, a website that I left due to some subs that I don’t want to name as they are personal to me.
The reason I left is because it got flooded with stupid people, and I realised that the only reason I kept using Reddit was to argue with those fools.
But the thing is, that simply cutting out reddit didn’t solve my problem, which is that I really hate a lot of people and I’m not even going to deny it.
A lot of them deserve it tho, I’m mostly talking about those jerks who try to stample on others to feel better about themselves. I hate how this word got “ruined” but to be precise I’m talking about “bigoted” people.
Anyways l just because they “deserve” the hate (or don’t) I still feel angry after meeting people like this and I honestly don’t know what to do now.
EDIT: made formatting better
You can accept people as people without accepting their positions, claims, or views.
You can be mindful of when to engage in comments or not.
You can shift your mindset from arguing with a random stranger/bigot to defusing their talking points, or not letting them stand when you feel they should not.
People are more than one thing. You don't have to like everyone. And you certainly don't have to like all their aspects like the limited view one can see from their online profile or comment.
I don't think Lemmy is fundamentally different from Reddit either, in terms of how people behave, and how it will develop with more users. You just have more choice regarding choice of instances and communities, and blocking.
If you want to become more accepting of other peoples view points, be mindful of your own prejudices, automated thoughts, classifications, and emotional responses. Consider perspective switches, or considering the value of different views in general.