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Read it again, women are people too. What your approach is, is to think of them as objects to fuck, a different category to "people". You have your own issues to work through. Don't use people as means to an end.
No, you aren't pretty normal to think of everyone as "someone to fuck" and instead of saying "hey want to throw hoops together" to a woman too, you would say "want to fuck". That's asocial behavior.
And no, it doesn't matter that women and men have differences.
So yeah, drop this toxic line of thinking first.
So now you are treating this person as not a person... Good talk.
I don't know where you got that from, but you do you
I don't think of women as objects to fuck, because the feeling of horniness is an emotion which emerges before rational thought. Rational thought is plastered over our emotions post-hoc. That's how the brain works.
And what I described is how my sexuality works. If that offends you, well... That's your problem. I'm not going to apologize for something I didn't choose and can't change. And if we're going to have a discussion about how dating works, then I'm not going to lie.
Then why do all dating sites put pictures front and center?
Asocial is when you don't socialize. Asocial behavior would be not talking to anyone. What you are thinking of is antisocial behavior - behavior which violates social norms. And that's my point. There are social norms around asking women to have sex which don't exist around basketball or asking men to have sex, because men and women are different.
So you would tell a man to make a dick pic his lead photo on Tinder? Because that's what they do on Grindr.
Toxic thinking is denying reality and trying to invalidate someone else's sexuality because it contradicts your political views.
"I am not going to stop thinking of women as fuck objects and treat them as people, and if that offends you that's your problem"
I'm not "offended" by you, I'm telling you to change your thought patterns and stop being an incel in every sense of the word. No wall of text will excuse this line of thinking, or make it okay. I'm done talking with you - it's obvious you suffer from being chronically online and not understanding how to interact with people.
So when my wife wants to fuck me she sees me as an object ? But she never wants to fuck object though ?
I'm ethically non-monogamous and am currently sleeping with multiple different women with their very enthusiastic consent. The fact that I understand and can speak frankly and honestly about my sexuality - as well as anything else on my mind - is a turn on for them because it means that they can understand how I'm feeling and appreciate that I am relating to them authentically.
They don't feel dehumanized by the fact that I think they are hot. They feel sexy and appreciated. And they understand that having sexual urges towards someone doesn't mean they can't also be human. Really, being sexually attracted to others and wanting others to be sexually attracted to you is one of the fundamental experiences of being human.
There is a stereotypical male sexuality which is based primarily around physical appearance. And there is a stereotypical female sexuality based around personality. These are not strictly limited to one gender or another, but the stereotypes exist for a reason - because the correspond with broad demographic trends. I have a stereotypically male sexuality. I understand and accept that the women I sleep with have a different sexuality in some ways. So I try to understand what they want, and give it to them, because I like seeing them happy. And they try to understand what I want and give it to me, because they like seeing me happy. We are different in some ways and similar in others, and that's part of what makes spending time with each other fun. So no, I'm not going to apologize or feel bad about my sexuality.