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My son doesn't want me interacting with his friends (lemmy.world)

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I’m a single mother of a 12 year old boy and recently he told me he was gonna have some friends over, but he asked me if I could stay in my room while they hangout. After some arguing I did end up staying in my room for the most part outside of bringing them snacks/drinks. I was kind of hurt because I want to be that cool/friendly mom to my son’s friends and I want to get to know who my son is hanging out with. I’m definitely on the younger end for a mother of a 12 year old since I had him extremely early, so I feel like I’d be less embarrassing than other moms. Any time I’ve offered to chaperone for school events, he’s begged me not to. What should I do? Is this just a phase?

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[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

So, a few years back, when my kid was 13 or so, I used to send them memes over discord. This was 6 or 7 years ago now. And I thought, I'm a cool mum, 'cause I use discord to talk to my kid, and I send them memes.

And one day, I asked my kid if I'm one of the cool parents, 'cause I send them memes, and they said "You send me old memes". Their friends thought I was cool but my kid? Nah, not so much...

In all seriousness though, my kid is 20 now, and I have a great relationship with them. Don't read too much in to it. I don't think there's any winning with young teens and pre teens. You'll never be cool in their eyes, and I think we just have to find our peace with that :)