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It's not, but with... Political views as they are, it's gotten a lot of pushback. People don't even realize they use it regularly.
"Someone called for you"
"What did they want?"
Bam. Easy. I was stoked when magic the gathering changed card wording from "he or she" to "they" because it cleans up the wording so much.
A good point I heard though is that singular "they" is used when you don't know the person's identity. To the extent that it could be multiple people involved, hence the use. Obviously, it's at slight odds with "someone" in this example, but still.
Fun fact though, we do actually use "they" in that way in Polish, in old-fashioned military slang, like "Where's private Kowalski? They were supposed to be here". (Edit: I think that might be used when addressing them directly, so this might be a bad example, but then there is no version in English since "you" covers all genders and numbers) I don't know if non-binary people here actually use it.
Yeah, the comment above mixed up grammar nazis with actual nazis I guess.