Obviously I don't want any weirdo no-fap reactionary shit.

I'm glad you are at least asking this, because fapping too much to porn is definitely not good for you. The problem is, because of the no-fap reddit communities, the knee-jerk response from hexbear will be "there's absolutely no problem at all!" I've noticed that when I go nofap even for a few days is that I feel more energetic. I also get more of an "urge" to try to talk to the opposite sex, instead of just being passive about it. And I think the opposite sex also notices this change in behavior and it comes off as more confident and assertive. For example, you walk around and get smiles, or at least notice the little signs that someone might be into you. Maybe this is sexual interest over-perception bias, but at least that's how I feel. You miss all the shots you never take, right? Lastly, I also appreciate the beauty of the opposite sex more, whereas before someone would have to be "mega hot" for me to pay attention, with nofap I appreciate even "regular" looking people. Maybe that means my mind is getting "desperate," but I'd like to think of it as me appreciating natural beauty instead of the hyper sexualized stuff you see in media.

But either way I think this is a healthy conversation to have