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I'm pretty bad at certain aspects of communicating and have persistent weird perceptions of social interaction and etiquette. e.g. I find sugarcoating or otherwise trying to soften the blow of bad news to be insulting/patronizing, and someone telling me comforting lies that I later discover are lies would leave me feeling deeply betrayed. I find it damn near impossible to connect a person's emotional state (which I have become hypervigilant for in seeking any signs of rejection) and the reason for it in the moment, and might only understand later on after analyzing all the different factors.
(99% sure I'm autistic but I'm pretty sure I've stated that outright a bunch)
I am autistic, and relate very directly to pretty much everything you say. Especially the parts about it being almost impossible to connect to other people's emotional states. So you may have your answer. Try seeing if you can get formally diagnosed. Depending on how old you are, there may be resources you can make use of.
I'm 37 and live in America so I would get absolutely nothing
Hmm, I understand that situation all too well, I'm afraid.