This isn't defense, this behavior actively makes things worse for trans people. This is the exact type of behavior conservatives want you to think of when they say "trans people bad".

[–] Seryph@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They’re a man or woman now

This is why, this statement means that you don't view trans people who haven't "finished transitioning" as their actual gender. This is a transphobic and pretty reductive understanding of how transition works (albeit one that some trans people hold themselves, usually transmeds). I won't write an entire essay on why but here's just a small bit to chew on: consider that a "finished transition" is very different from person to person and some people might never consider it finished. Some people only want to socially transition, others have to medicate for their entire lives, both could consider reaching their ideal state "finished" or they could consider it a continual work in progress.

Also,

This isn’t defense, this behavior actively makes things worse for trans people.

The idea that pointing out someone's transphobia will somehow support the transphobes is laughable. If being called out is seriously enough to make someone stop supporting trans people then their support was conditional and only surface-level.

Staying civil, as you suggest, is what actually helps conservatives since it allows their views to go unchallenged when their views are bad and should be challenged. Part of this includes challenging people who may think they are supportive but harbour transphobic beliefs that they haven't analysed fully. And these wrong beliefs can have actual harm. As a simple example, there are a lot of "allies" who say that trans people are their gender but not their sex, which is a belief that can harm trans people when brought into a medical context where our bodies are (if on HRT) closer to those of our actual gender than to our AGAB.

[–] HornyOnMain@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you are not trans shut the fuck up right now about what is or isn't good for trans people, trans people do not need a cis saviour to come in and tell us we're being too unpalatable for liberals who will only support us as long as we don't get too uppity

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago

There it is, rabid dog behavior.

You give the conservatives everything they need hexadyte.

[–] American_Communist22@lemmygrad.ml -3 points 1 year ago

I was called a bigot because I dared to say that a person finished transitioning is no longer trans.

thats bigoted you fucking godless removed

I would love to put the entire imperial core in a giant fucking prison and re-educate all of you into communists. Its my favorite fantasy.