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Honestly like no amount of money will change the results if your dating profile is shit.
If you’re a whale willing to spend 500 on tinder, spend it on marketing yourself. New photos, personal trainer, hobbies and seriously important - new clothes that fit you.
Lot of single people I meet always say “I don’t want to change who I am”. Changing the way you look and feel isn’t changing who you are. Unless you’re actually as shallow as your outfit. It’s not lame to see what the trends are and even ask a salesperson of the opposite sex for advice. Putting yourself out there is all aspects of such.
Present your best self. Because that’s all a person swiping can judge you on. That 5 seconds.
This is good advice.
Also a lot of people really drop the ball when they do get a match. Some hot advice because a lot of people out there seem to need help.
ask questions. If someone asks you "did you see the Barbie movie?" do not just reply yes or no. That's not how this game works. Try "No, but I heard it was really good. What did you think?". Open ended questions are better. Imagine you are playing catch. Their question is the ball. You caught it. Nice! Now fucking throw it back.
ask people out on a date*. do not ask them to come directly to your home. Dates do not have to be expensive. Drinks, coffee, snacks in the park, whatever. So long as it's public and lets you actually talk, you're good.
put stuff you want to talk about in your profile. Do not leave your profile blank. Do not be "clever" by writing "no one reads this" or "I'm really two lizards in a coat." Your profile is your ad copy. Your profile holds your story hooks. Give the other person something to work with. "I love my friends" is not going to start a good conversation.
Exactly. Assuming people interested in this are guys. Dating apps are a women’s market and that’s just facts. Because of such their profile can be completely trash and they’ll get matches.
For guys you need to put the work in. I met my wife on tinder (ages ago before paid tier even was introduced). It was after a lot of trial and error on the app.
Your profile needs to show who you are in the best light, and really importantly to show you’re not dangerous
Great analogy, and it's honestly funny (and sad) that it needs to be said.
I'm male and have never considered myself to be attractive, but when I was on dating sites I had no problem blocking the occasional matches I got after a few one word answers.
In my opinion, one person shouldn't be responsible for keeping the other person entertained and engaged.. there needs to be some back and forth.
One more tip for you terrible daters out there - stay off your phone unless you're specifically showing the other person something.
Or just spend the $500 on an escort if you’re that desperate. You can get a pretty classy gal for $500.
I'm only moderately classy, but I'll do it for $400. I'm really good at pretending to be interested in stuff I don't care about, so they can talk about whatever weirdness they got going on that makes them willing to pay $500 a month for fuckin tinder. What a steal!
Go on…
What do you think this is? Tinder will pay $150 for a girl to go on a couple dates and pocket the $350. The "enhanced profile" will have a near 100% success rate, if success is defined as a date with a girl who's only interested in money.
They've probably already workshopped a name for the "content creators".
That honestly makes me kind of sad. Not even specifically the escorting part but just like.. that seems like a small amount of money for that on the escort's end. Like for example, I am pretty sure there are OF girls who sell nudes for that much lol
Just stop spending money on tinder, it only works if you are top10% and even then people get miserable.
Yeah there’s a lot of advice here but the data has shown that for the most part if you aren’t in the top tier of attractiveness you are getting ignored, no matter what the algorithm does
Step 1: Be attractive
Step 2: Don’t be unattractive
Step 3: Definitely don’t spend money on Tinder because it won’t magically fix step 1 and 2
Ah shit, I've failed 1 and 2. I better not fail 3 then.
It shows that you have $500 to throw in the garbage. That would interest a lot of people.
I just want to show them my butthole. But now I have to tell all my neighbors I like to show people my butthole and no one seems interested when I tell them.
Your comment is a screenplay waiting to happen.