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People with custom pronouns, how do you prefer to be addressed? (she/they for example) (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 year ago by nei7jc@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] jocanib@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Specifically on she/they:

I use this on the internet sometimes because, when I give someone help on something technical, 90% of the time they thank an imaginary bloke. And if I correct them I'll get trolls harassing me and patronising pricks giving me tips for beginners (including, often, the person whose question I answered).

When you don't know, keep it neutral. Reinforcing stereotypes is harmful even if you mean no harm.