Both my partners are not ML's. As long as they are someone who support me and my revolutionary goals I'll be fine. I would want them to be closer to my own views but I'll work on that when we are closer. The idea of having a partner who is also revolutionary does make sense, and I get why most people here have that view. However, relationships work on mutual trust on each other. Most of the time you'll find people who are too busy on their everyday life and have more important contradictions directly affecting their survival that they have to focus on, to give time for organizing. The point isn't to convert them but to treat them as humans whose ideas and the things they do come from their reality they are living. Through discourse of ideas, slowly communicating your own views, (and most importantly) getting their views because they're as much as part of the masses as you are, a more stronger relationship will come through. If they're open to changing their mind and not terminally online on political tweeting, 99 out of 100 times they're on your side. The ideological differences here won't matter then.