I am married to someone that is ML or ML sympathetic. We don't really proclaime to anyone we are ML unless we are talking to marxists but it has always been relevant to our politics. It's not at all the totality of our politics because we are also interested in Indigenous perspectives and ML simply doesn't engage with that enough in my opinion and experience. I like plural thinking more than getting fully caught up in a single tradition.

Anyway if I wasn't married I would avoid getting caught up with SocDems at this point in my life. If someone can't handle criticism of first worldist politics we are absolutely not compatible. But also I would be annoyed by an ML that can't handle critical perspectives that come from Indigenous or place-based people. I would likely be more patient with a dogmatic ML than a SocDems tho.