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submitted 1 year ago by isame@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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I don't mean to unnecessarily gender this discussion. Gender here doesn't matter. But I'm going to use gendered words as they fit the context. I want everyone's opinion.

My dad died from bronchial cancer two days before my 12th birthday. I had to learn how to be a 'man' from my ill mother.

What I want to know is, if you had to import some wisdom to preteen me, about the fundamentals of life, what would it be?

I've barely learned to shave (and prefer a beard anyway). What can you teach me Hexbear?

I'm 32 by the way. I'm just curious.

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[–] isame@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

This is a good one. Fortunately I think I learned it early. In school I was the kid that was done with the bullshit busy work and enjoying my book or whatever while other kids were still complaining about being given busy work. It's the same sort of idea. Life is uncomfortable a lot of the time. Learning to endure it gracefully has been a huge boon to me. I feel like it contributes to a good work ethic. I work like a beast. I got that from my dad as well. If something needs done, there's nothing to do but do it.