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Wolverine really does look like two Batmen kissing

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[–] Norgur@kbin.social 45 points 11 months ago (7 children)

Be as secure as you will, if you see your SO in a romance scene in a typical hig h profile movie with all the right camera angles and music and all... it's bound to do at least something to you, right?

[–] kofe@lemmy.ml 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, and that something can be communicated. But at the end of the day it's their job. I follow a therapist on YouTube that talks about his wife's modeling career on occasion and he never really cared. He saw the work that goes into it and knows it's just that - work. I think on the rare occasions it did bring up some feelings of jealousy he communicated the insecurity and got reassurance from her. That obviously worked well enough that they've been married a couple decades.

On the work end, keep in mind how many times they have to shoot scenes/photos and how extremely unromantic/inauthentic it is.

[–] cornballdefense@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Psychology in Seattle, perhaps?

[–] kofe@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 months ago

Hell yes, deserving listener!

[–] ZeroTHM@lemmy.world 7 points 11 months ago

Only if you care at all about them and your relationship.

[–] Lmaydev@programming.dev 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

No that's the point. If you are not insecure and trust your partner then you know it's just acting.

[–] Norgur@kbin.social 34 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

I'm not suggesting that they might assume any of the acted scene had real feelings behind it. Yet still, visually seeing your SO seemingly doing intimate stuff will make you feel something. You might not be jealous or anything, yet still. That has nothing to do with insecurity. You can feel awkward without jealousy, can't you?

[–] kadotux@sopuli.xyz 16 points 11 months ago (1 children)

As a former polyamoric person, here's how I (still) think of it: You can't control your feelings (they are merely physical reactions to situations) but you can control how you deal with them. Or how you act on them.

So in a sense, in my opinion, you're both correct.

[–] Lmaydev@programming.dev 1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars. It's just their work at the end of the day.

I'm sure plenty of people don't really feel anything about it.

[–] zacher_glachl@lemmy.world 12 points 11 months ago

There are plenty of people who are completely comfortable with their partners being strippers or porn stars.

From a purely logical standpoint, given the number of strippers and porn stars out there, that statement must be true. It's not quite something I can wrap my head around though.

[–] SzethFriendOfNimi@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Not really. Especially when you know what goes into filming them. From modesty underwear to lighting to 30 people around you just doing their thing for the production.

As a spouse of an actor you’d think you know just how “fake” the music and emotional impact is.

[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 0 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] Norgur@kbin.social 4 points 11 months ago

That's definetly one of the possibilities. I never had a relationship with a movie star who did such scenes, so I wouldn't know.