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I understand a fantasy and a one time thing like tipping on a guys night out at a strip club, but some of these guys think they are in a relationship with someone they will never meet and don't even know their real name or life details.

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[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 11 months ago (1 children)

As someone who has done tipped labor before: the bigger problem is the entitlement of the people who come to expect tips and negatively judge anyone who doesn't.

[–] 1847953620@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

I once got shat on for saying I reduce my typical tip of 25%+ down to 15% for waiters who were particularly bad at interactions, in a thread where a bunch of waiters were patting themselves on the back for forcing bad-but-fast interactions that allowed them to give the appearance of service.

Such as avoiding eye contact, ignoring gestures from a distance, and leaving a table fast to give them as little time as possible to put in follow-up requests, or waiting until someone's mouth was full or with a glass up so they couldn't elaborate, and some other stuff I don't care to remember.

I was called "shitty" for "witholding tips".

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's so sad, you weren't even doing a "No tip" just a "reduced tip." Like, isn't that how tipping is supposed to work?

I've faced it too, coworkers would tell me things like "we have a spray bottle with water so you can look like you're sweating and working really hard and more likely to get tips." Cool, because gaslighting people for money isn't fraudulent or scammy at all??

The entitlement is crazy. I remember literally arguing "it's not their responsibility to cover the gaps in our pay that our employer refuses to cover" and them acting like I was crazy to expect our employer to pay us a living wage when we could be raking in cash from tips.

Seriously, the tips were insane, but it wasn't enough for these people. We could be getting enough in tips to be making $30+/hour each night, but apparently that's not enough and entirely the responsibility of the people who come to our restaurant.

Yeah, I'm pretty convinced that the worst tipping culture comes from the people who act like not getting a tip is fucking blaspheme that should be punished by God himself.

[–] 1847953620@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yeah, like I've always tipped the "standard" (15% here) as the minimum in the worst cases, my standard is 20-25% or more depending on the bill and time of service, et cetera; and they still had their panties in a wad over the idea that their brilliant shortcuts weren't that brilliant and that someone might still see through them or at least appropriately judge their service over them, intentional or not.

edit: at the time it was 25% or more; I've only adjusted it slightly because I don't make as much anymore, and even then it's mainly when it's a large bill, and I'm by myself, and either the service was just sub-par, or it was a very fast but expensive meal. Good eating is my vice.

[–] afraid_of_zombies@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

I don't enjoy restaurants. For travel only. Rather just cook it myself.