I graduated with a bachelors in computer science around 4 years ago. Long story short, I was depressed, dysphoric, and suicidal throughout my college years and by the time I finished I didn’t want to do anything. I’ve been unemployed for the last 4 years but I’ve also transitioned, started taking better care of myself, and overall I feel much better.
Anyways, I need to get a job now. What kind of lies can I get away with on my resume to cover up the long period of unemployment? Should I pretend I started some sort of company and it failed? Pretend like I went on some backpacking journey in a foreign country? Do companies even check all this stuff?
I did do an internship at a big tech company several years ago, and I’m working on personal software projects so I can put that on my resume. Also, I’m in Amerikkka.
Sorry if this question has been asked here before 
You shouldn’t say deceased because if they’re still alive, you might slip and say some shit like “I went to my mom’s for Christmas.” People typically don’t care for family outside the immediate family (lol, it’s the US unfortunately) or at least they don’t talk about it. That means it’s mainly immediate family members.
Just say you had to take care of your parent for some illness, then the pandemic occurred, and they were an at risk person so you had to be there all the time.