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[–] Microplasticbrain@lemm.ee 20 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Super braindead take, men exercise for their own health and confidence. In the same way that women wear makeup, it may help attracting the opposite sex but we do it for ourselves. Also exercise is one of the most direct mechanisms for self improvement regardless of gender.

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

Uh, I have definitively heard a lot of men say their primary motivation to "getting buff" is to pick up women.

[–] orrk@lemmy.world 9 points 11 months ago (1 children)

and I have definitely heard women repeat some common gender stereotype as well

[–] Microplasticbrain@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Yea I think a lot of men initially get into exercise to attract women but the ones that really stick with it end up doing it for themselves after they realize how much better they feel, both physically and mentally. Of course there will always be people who do things for different reasons but in general this has been my experience.

[–] Chriswild@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

It can be for women but attract women for unintended reasons. Confidence is attractive and if they get confidence through gaining muscle it still works.

[–] SCB@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm 39. These days I explicitly work out to be in good shape for sex. I want to look good when I pop the top, and attracting partners is a core goal of mine.

I've never in my life been hurting for confidence, and was confident when I was 40 lbs heavier - I just looked worse with my shirt off.

If you're chasing low-commitment sex, at some point your physical attractiveness does indeed matter.

[–] Microplasticbrain@lemm.ee 2 points 11 months ago

That's fair but from the people I speak to, who exercise consistently, they do it for themselves primarily. I don't know many people who exercise exclusively to attract women and not also enjoy being in shape just for themselves whether its to feel good, or be more confident.

Personally I do cardio, not because of attracting someone but because I literally feel so much better on a daily basis when I do. My sleep is better, I have more energry, etc.