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I was a new dog owner, went to /r/Dogs to ask about a particular behavior my dog was exhibiting I'd never seen or read about before (turned out to be normal tho) and every reply I got basically told me I don't know how to care for an animal and that I should give him to someone else.
It was then I realized that it wasn't just /r/RelationshipAdvice that was full of bitter, jealous losers whose advice is always "dump them." It applied to literally every single subreddit dedicated to advice. They may have started with good intentions and knowledgeable people, but over time filled up with people who had no business giving anyone advice.
Oh yeah even lifeprotips, if you go in the comments it's just full of people grasping at straws to find the tip useless and upvoting each other's cynicism
There was one: "If you want a fridge's compressor to turn on and off less frequently (ie: if you sleep in the same room), fill it with water bottles to increase thermal mass" and the top comments were "Actual life pro tio: get an apartment with 2 rooms???"
I was like: are these people actually that slow?
The less there is to say about an advice, the less reasons you have to go write a comment. Therefore the people in the comments are often outliers
Just fyi: That person was trying to make a joke.
As a fellow dog owner, the internet always seems to be the most judgemental place to get dog advice. If you dont spend 6 hours a day training your dog, feed the top of the line kibble, and vax them for diseases only 3 dogs have got ever, then you dont deserve to have a dog.
This is true. Even random articles found on search engines give messed up advice.
"Can dogs eat avocado?"
Websites: "Yes. No. Maybe? They are toxic. But what makes them toxic doesn't affect dogs. At least not as much. Don't give them avocado."
People get so hand-wringy about what dogs can and can't eat. Like I've had people tell me not to let my dog eat apple because there's a chemical in apple seeds that's converted to cyanide in the gut.
Like, first of all, I'm not feeding the seeds to my dog, and second of all there's not enough of that stuff in one apple's worth of seeds to hurt you, and third of all you'd have to basically chew the seeds into powder, a thing that dogs famously do not do, to get even that tiny harmless amount.
It's not safe for dogs to eat chocolate, grapes, or alliums. Everything else is kinda fine. (And tbh growing up my family dogs ate all of those things a few times and were fine -- how dangerous it is depends on the concentration of the toxic thing, the size of the dog, etc.)