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Kindness is a virtue that we learn to balance. You’ll learn who deserves your kindness with time. It is innate but requires cultivation and practice through social interactions.
We learn that being kind to rude people will usually not make things better, but we also learn that being kind to those who need to be shown kindness can help tons. And as with all things, there are extremes.
People who become helpless and reject the notion of being nice.
“I went through the pain, why shouldn’t you?”
And people who become pushovers and reject the notion of the fact that they’re being taken advantage of.
“I can take the pain for everyone.”
And as with life, it’s never black and white. You’ll meet all sorts of people. Some really nice. Some dickheads. Some annoying ones. And some evil ones.
All of this is just my personal opinion, but it helps me realize that it’s all okay. It’s part of the balance.