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My dad got me The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday for Christmas and I'm conflicted. (midwest.social)
submitted 10 months ago by Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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So my dad got me The Daily Stoic for Christmas this year. We have had a shit relationship for a long time and he recently got into therapy (which is good). I just feel like this thing is mindfulness for bros. Most of that is probably me knowing of modern stoicism (or grifters making a buck saying they're stoic) seeming to be red pill or day trader bros. I've made it to day 4 and I can't stand it anymore. This is the most basic 3Cs of recovery stufd and basic mindfulness. Also I might have looked to Google to justify my options that it's just a toxic male / bro coping mechanism, but this seems like a fucking grift for shitty people who are trying to be better but still aren't down/get it.

I already learned all of this Jinkx Monsoon

P.S. I haven't come out to that side of the family yet as genderqueer and my dad and grandpa kept making jokes that pissed me off. Possibly some misplaced anger

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[–] Edgarallenpwn@midwest.social 3 points 10 months ago

Thank you for saving me from reading the rest of it. I feeI like i got the point already. It's just really weird to me that my dad suddenly went into therapy dad mode so fast after being the most emotionally distant person for so long. I'm trying to not complain and embrace it but it is a huge shock to me and our relationship.

I'm trying to not shit on the book that much either since it is helping him, but it seems like basic stuff I learned 10 years ago from my own therapy. I mean if it works for him that's great but I think I am mad that my dad gave me a self help book about stuff I have been practicing because of his actions. Also some negative feelings lingering from Christmas dinner talk.