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How do you deal with frustration and anger?
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I was born with a very simple emotional spectrum. I basicly only feel primitive emotions like anger, fear, anxiety, lust, fulfilment and their absence. My serotonin levels are very low and boosting it with meds makes no difference. I hold this as my expertice on the matter. Anger and anxiety rule my reality.
To the point. Emotions have physical and mental component. One can't live without the other. Be aware of this and the fact that you can be unwillingly feeding them, with thougts you run in your head.
To kill an emotion you clear your head till the physical component subsides. After that you need a little mental discipline, not to reignite it. It doesn't happen in a second, so plenty of time to catch yourself in the act.
The idea that emotions are energy that needs to be vented is bs.
Well, i tried to vent my emotions, so thanks for the tip. I can get carried away a little easily
Try this: handwrite your negative thoughts out. Then try to prove to yourself why the feeling isn't true. Again, write that out. Now tear up the paper and get rid of it. Don't keep a journal of it.
You would be stunned how much this helps. I got this technique from a doctor who wrote a book about living with what he calls neuropathic disorder (in my case chronic pain). In the book he describes how we can easily make ourhealth worse through negative thoughts. It's very possible for bad feelings to cause physical pain because the two share the same neural pathways, so it's critically important not to let your emotions get the better of you.
The book is called Back In Control (the author is a back surgeon). It's a good read for anyone with chronic illnesses, or even just for those who want to explore how to better control their emotions and live healthier.