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Research found while antidepressant prescriptions have risen dramatically in the US for teenage girls and women in their 20s, the rate of such prescriptions for young men “declined abruptly during March 2020 and did not recover.”

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[–] AllonzeeLV@lemmy.world 80 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (4 children)

Contrary to the pretty lies we like to say here in the US, "There's help if you need it/you matter/don't be afraid to get help" There are no meaningful resources to help those not attached to meaningful capital, and seeking help will almost certainly leave you with more problems than you started with.

And if you're a man, you'll also be ridiculed for it.

We made a society that works against itself to the point that we eagerly send the biggest losers out to die of exposure under a freeway, of course screaming "time out please I give up I need help" isn't going to end well for you.

I wish at the very least we could be honest with ourselves and cut out the patronizing, cutesy lies that we say to absolve ourselves of the guilt of our society's cruelty.

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 17 points 7 months ago

I agree with the first paragraph as my own experience with a much-needed year of therapy left me in debt

I disagree with the second sentence entirely. Even my very conservative father supported me going. There's tons of terrible men in this country but we need to stop perpetuating the myth that every man in the US has a fratboy mentality.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

There are no meaningful resources to help those not attached to meaningful capital

This is not true. I received lots of free counseling and psychologist treatment when I was on medi-cal, both as a child and as an adult. You do need to seek it out to receive it.

[–] BaldProphet@kbin.social 13 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Medi-Cal is the state of California's Medicaid implementation. It is only available to residents of California and even within the state, its usefulness varies widely.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world -2 points 7 months ago (2 children)

That's true, but other states have their own versions of the program, with similar coverage. I'm sure there are differences, but I don't know the extent of the differences. I would like to think that they're minor, since it's a federally funded program, but who knows. States like Texas seem to always circumvent my expectations.

[–] BaldProphet@kbin.social 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I’m sure there are differences, but I don’t know the extent of the differences. I would like to think that they’re minor, since it’s a federally funded program, but who knows.

Unfortunately, you are wrong in this case. Medicaid coverage and funding vary significantly between states, as can be seen here: https://www.medicaid.gov/state-overviews/index.html

Coverage has improved in most states since 2020, but few states try to implement Medicaid as comprehensively as California, and several implement it as minimally as possible without violating federal law.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well that's super disappointing to hear. I grew up poor and on welfare, but I was always able to get medical care and counseling because of that program. Every state in the nation should offer that to people who need it.

[–] BaldProphet@kbin.social 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, Medi-Cal has a ton of problems (like paying healthcare providers way less than they earn from every other insurance plan) and its county-by-county administration is a bit wonky, but it has been a boon to me as well.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

Yes, they definitely pay less and are a pain for doctors to deal with. As a result, we were never able to see any of the best doctors, since they just refused to accept medi-cal. But I was always able to get treatment. I would have been SOL without it as a kid, because I was always getting injured due to sports and adrenaline seeking.

[–] spaduf@slrpnk.net 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I would like to think that they’re minor, since it’s a federally funded program

This is the sort of thing you'd only ever hear from a resident of California. I can assure you it is never so easy in a red state.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 0 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I did acknowledge that could be the case in the following sentence.

[–] Ultragigagigantic@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yall call this civilization? We might have spaceships and cellphones, however we can't help but crush some strangers head with a rock and take all their shit. It's just now its through the economic system or the justice system.

[–] BaldProphet@kbin.social 3 points 7 months ago

Instructions unclear, what should I do with this bloody rock?

[–] FunkyMonk@kbin.social 3 points 7 months ago

I aint religious but Amen.