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When dating, "Just be confident" is just bad advice if you ask me. (lemm.ee)

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"Being confident" is dangerously close to straight up bothering people. Plus it only really works if you're good looking.

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[–] paysrenttobirds@sh.itjust.works 18 points 6 months ago

I think you are meaning "confident that this will go your way" when it should be "confident that your mood and well-being are going to be fine no matter how it goes".

The second one takes the anxiety out and let's you respond to how things actually are, instead of comparing to some other story. Then you can see yourself, the situation, and the other person more clearly, which helps make experience more worthwhile in any event.