One of my most active subs on Reddit was /r/MensLib, an open, pro-feminist, trans-inclusive space for people to discuss men's issues without toxicity and without anger or violence directed at women or men. It was a (mostly) wonderful community that fostered lots of genuine, heartfelt discussion, and it would seem to me that Beehaw as an instance would be the perfect place for such a community to take root on Lemmy.
I'm aware of the community on lemmy.ca, but there is both an article written in bad faith (though I don't think it was posted in bad faith) and a post from a bad actor on the front page that has been up for several days with no mod action, which concerns me.
Thoughts?
(Edited to be more fair to the most active poster on the lemmy.ca community, as I don't think they're posting in bad faith and I should have been clearer about that)
Just chiming in that my experience has been similar to each of yours (you, and @Vestria ) in those kinds of spaces. There is the potential for truly positive social interaction even in anonymous dudespace but highly granular mod tools are necessary. Really, those tools are necessary in semi-anonymous and real name internet spaces too, and lemmy hasn't got that specificity in mod and admin capabilities yet.
My interactions on Beehaw have convinced me that, once the mod/admin tools exist, it stands a great chance of being able to navigate the hosting of such a community with few/er of the seemingly inherent nasty tendencies. For what it's worth, I'm one of the mods who was a vote against forming it before the tools we need are in place, and I'd volunteer to mod it if/when it gets created.