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About the pronoun "it", how do you handle it if someone calls you it in a mean way? (hexbear.net)
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Like in a dehumanizing manner. I want to go by it/they/them but I'm scared I won't be able to handle it if someone does that.

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[–] D61@hexbear.net 3 points 4 months ago

Call them out on being an asshole if you can get away with it.

If the situation is less than safe, maybe introduce yourself with they/them instead of it/they/them. Not ideal but at least if there are bystanders around there's more chance that they'd feel okay calling out the person using "it" in a snarky way.