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I have set my new name everywhere I can in the AppleID settings but the old name is still showing up in this place, and maybe in other places which I haven't seen yet. But how can I get my chosen name to show up here?

(for clarity, this is the profile picture selection on iPadOS)

Solution: The solution for me was that I had to change my name in the contacts.

More comprehensive solution here

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[–] noughtnaut@lemmy.world 54 points 4 months ago (3 children)

I'm glad you ask about things you don't know. You're a smart person.

A dead name is a person's given name, in the context of a person having transitioned to a different gender and also changing their name to match the gender they identify as. It is bad form to then continue to call them by their birth name.

[–] azulavoir@sh.itjust.works 15 points 4 months ago (3 children)

It could also be, perhaps, someone's given name before adoption gave them a new one. Or perhaps a meddling relative suggested a "better" name, and then the person went back to the one they were born with, leaving the relative's name idea dead.

It's not trans-exclusive (I fall into the latter category I mentioned) but it's definitely a mostly trans concept

[–] Tywele@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 4 months ago

That was new to me. Thank you for sharing.

[–] pewgar_seemsimandroid@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

is a marriage a reason too? (gay marriage included)

edit: rewording

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Not generally. It generally refers to first names more than surnames. It also strongly implies that you actively want to kill the name off, not just move to the new one. It's changing names with prejudice against the old one.

Refering to someone by their maiden name is generally not considered insulting. Dead naming someone (after you're aware) is extremely insulting.

[–] pyre@lemmy.world 1 points 4 months ago

that's really interesting never heard of that scenario before

[–] SplashJackson@lemmy.ca 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Oh, I've been calling it my slave name

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 1 points 4 months ago

lol that works, too!

[–] bitcrafter@programming.dev 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

So does that make the new name the undead name, and therefore like a zombie name?

[–] Queen___Bee@lemmy.world 12 points 4 months ago

I know you're joking, but for those who don't understand sarcasm it's more akin to a rebirth name when changing it after religious epiphanies or extreme cases of cuttingoff communication from one's origin family/tribe.