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Opening up (serious question) (hexbear.net)
submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by Comp4@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net
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I'm not sure if I want to open myself up about "this". It's not because I feel vulnerable, but because some people might think less of me for it. In a way, it's showing someone a massive weak spot that could be used against me. So, while I'm writing this, it seems obvious to me that it is foolish. Yet still, I have a lingering urge to share some of these feelings.

Truthfully, I have never shared this with anyone. Not even in a therapy setting have I felt comfortable enough to do so. I did nothing illegal, so don't worry. Its also nothing sex related.

Hypothetical. Imagine I killed someone in self-defense. Even if people might be sympathetic, they would view me differently after I told them that. It would change my relationship with them. This is just an example for something that has the potential to greatly change the dynamic between people.

I DIDNT KILL SOMEONE.

Any input would be appreciated.

EDIT OK. I talked with someone about it. Feel a bit better. Probably wont disclose it on Hexbear but thanks for all the input.

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[–] PM_ME_YOUR_FOUCAULTS@hexbear.net 19 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Correct me if I'm wrong, because your post is a bit vague, but what I understand is that you did something that you're ashamed of and are afraid to share with others

It's hard to say without knowing the specifics, but keeping secrets like that from people who you are otherwise close with can rob you of your sense of intimacy. You end up questioning your relationships because you tell yourself, "Well sure they like me, but that's only because I've hidden my true self. Actually they don't know me at all."

This is a common consequence for people who are in the closet about their gender or sexuality.