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Opening up (serious question) (hexbear.net)
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I'm not sure if I want to open myself up about "this". It's not because I feel vulnerable, but because some people might think less of me for it. In a way, it's showing someone a massive weak spot that could be used against me. So, while I'm writing this, it seems obvious to me that it is foolish. Yet still, I have a lingering urge to share some of these feelings.

Truthfully, I have never shared this with anyone. Not even in a therapy setting have I felt comfortable enough to do so. I did nothing illegal, so don't worry. Its also nothing sex related.

Hypothetical. Imagine I killed someone in self-defense. Even if people might be sympathetic, they would view me differently after I told them that. It would change my relationship with them. This is just an example for something that has the potential to greatly change the dynamic between people.

I DIDNT KILL SOMEONE.

Any input would be appreciated.

EDIT OK. I talked with someone about it. Feel a bit better. Probably wont disclose it on Hexbear but thanks for all the input.

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[–] homhom9000@hexbear.net 5 points 4 months ago

Honestly, even telling some people you're queer would greatly impact the relationship dynamic. If you feel like you want to let the people in your life know, go for it, you can't control or predict how people will react so that shouldn't be a factor if it's stopping you from living in your truth.

For myself, I've been working on gaining understanding before passing judgements so unless it's a distant acquaintance, there's nothing my friends can tell me that would make me want to abandon them. Now, that doesn't mean I won't grill them to death if it was super egregious.