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Basically what it says on the tin. Having read though some of the materials on the issue, I am baffled by how recklessly the word is used, given the consequences of such usage.

Pedophiles are the people with sexual attraction to prepubescent children. It doesn't matter whether they do or don't act on that attraction; in fact, many don't. It is a sexual interest/mental condition that cannot be reliably changed.

Child molesters, on the other hand, are not necessarily pedophiles - in fact, 50 to 75% of child molesters do not have pedophilic interest.

Both facts can be sourced from the respective Wikipedia article and more info can be found in respective research.

Why does this matter?

Because the current use of the word reinforces stigma around pedophilia and makes it less likely for people with pedophilic disorder to reach out for help for the fear they would be outed and treated the same as actual child abusers.

This, in turn, makes those in a vulnerable position more likely to cross the line and get into the category of child abusers instead of coming for help. Also, it heavily affects people who did nothing to deserve such treatment.

What should we do?

We should leave the word "pedophile" to the context in which it belongs, which is the mental health and sexuality spheres, and avoid using the term to describe sexual offenders against minors. At the very least, one would most likely be wrong. At most, one would participate in the cycle of child abuse.

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[–] Allero@lemmy.today 13 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It should be treated like "you're not bad for having that, but you'll absolutely be bad if you act on it".

We should always highlight that attraction itself is natural and just happens, but what differentiates between it and other attractions is that you really really shouldn't pursue anything based on it.

[–] GBU_28@lemm.ee -5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

It should not be normalized like any other attraction. It should be treated as a critical illness

Edit seriously y'all are way to casual with this shit.

Edit edit

Being a pedo is not like being straight or gay or liking a particular hair style or something. It's a sickness no matter what semantic circles people want to run.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 7 points 5 months ago

According to the modern, 11th, edition of International Classification of Diseases (ICD-11), curated by World Health Organization, as well as American Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, modern 5th edition (DSM-5), pedophilia is not an illness.

Literally the medical world says it's not.

But, at the end of the day, it doesn't even matter much. The point is - pedophiles need support, not more stigma, to find help and live a good life without hurting anybody.

[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 5 points 5 months ago

I love how you entirely agree with everything OP wrote, but still want to argue anyway.

no-one is being casual.

no-one is talking about normalising anything.

it's always been said to be a sickness, which was the entire point of the post. it's a sickness.

sicknesses are not their fault. sicknesses should be treated. This is a discussion about a way to help deal with the sickness that also reduces children getting abused at the same time.