19
Anyone Else Try And Fail At Making To Do Lists?
(hexbear.net)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 23 Jul 2024
19 points (100.0% liked)
neurodiverse
1644 readers
227 users here now
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
Yes, 100%. As someone who actually loves making random lists, to-do lists are the worst because they're easily compounded and have the added bonus of regret and guilt when they aren't completed, which can lead to more stress. For me it's always been about breaking things down into smaller bits so that I can process and act quickly. Prioritizing by time, importance, and complexity helps kinda break down the overwhelm enough to pick a task and see it through. It's probably always going to be a bit of a struggle, but knowing your own strengths and weaknesses can help form a system that works best for you. Maybe just avoiding the to-do list all together is the best course of action. Might try treating it like a video game objective or something easier for your particular neurodivergence to grab hold of.
I mostly use notecards for any to-dos I have, which keeps the list to a pretty small number of bullet points that can be managed, and I rarely ever use a to-do list that spans more than a 24hr period. For work I use sticky notes and a desk calendar to help with scheduling. If something on the sticky note or note card doesn't get done the day of, it goes to the top of tomorrow's list. It seems to work for me when I'm feeling overwhelmed at where to start.
I tried this in my own particular way and I ended up losing a couple of times as a result. I couldn't even win my own game. And unfortunately, losing in life has far more costly consequences than a video game.
Ha, I meant more like breaking tasks to do into video game-esque objectives, but I can empathize with the 'losing at life' sentiment. Being neurodivergent sure is fun, isn't it?