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I’ve been on HRT for two years, why do I still look like a man, why do I still look like this, why is my dystphoria worse than ever. Why do I hate myself so much. Why haven’t I’ve been loved and snuggled. Im just so sad with everything honestly can’t sleep.

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[–] streetfestival@lemmy.ca 10 points 4 months ago

Hey Sky, I remember you posting in the past. I'm sorry you're still struggling with these issues. In line with most people here, I think you do look feminine but there's a lack of confidence probably stemming from a not-great relationship with your appearance.

I hope to add some new thoughts here. I have pretty similar hair to you. It can feel like a blessing and a curse, because it can look great but it's a lot of effort (especially from an AMAB perspective on haircare). I'm gradually learning more and more and it's one of the most gender-affirming things I have going for me. I think maybe if you can focus on liking a bit of your appearance more than you might start feeling a little better and more hopeful about your appearance overall. Here are some easier things you can try with your hair. It looks like you part your hair down the middle - try parting it on one side. Try a 'messy bun' with a ponytailer. Try some 'half up' big claw hairstyles. Feel free to let me know how it goes. Good luck, I'm rooting for you :)