Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
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Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
To make such a request, at the start of the body of your post, not in the title, the first line should look like the this: [Requesting Engagement from _________]
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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If you feel like youre a guy, then you're not trans, you're probably more like a femboy or something in that range of the spectrum
If you feel like you're a woman (which seems to not be the case, but its here for completeness) then you are trans, and you're trans enough!
If you don't feel like you're a man, and you like to present yourself and exist somewhere between the two sides of the spectrum, there's a gigantic umbrella of non-binary gender identities that you may fall under. If this is the case, then whether you're trans or not is totally up to you. You're not technically the gender you were assigned at birth, so the trans label is valid for you, but at the same time it's not a label you have to accept and if you don't feel comfortable being labelled trans, you don't have to be. In this scenario, whether the "t4t" thing would include you is entirely up to what your experience of gender is like. The majority of people looking for "t4t" are doing so because the shared experience of being trans provides a safe space, or a safe starting point of understanding and stuff like that.
The conversation you're having here, and no doubt your internal monologue, is a very common part of the trans experience. When I was in a similar space to you, i considered myself nonbinary and left it at that, no deeper consideration of labels within the umbrella term. I adopted they/them pronouns and expressed myself however felt comfortable on the day. I asked similar questions to my trans friends about transness and felt like i was almost an impostor trans. Our pathways may diverge at this point, because i ended up figuring out that i am actually a transgender woman. All this to say, you're indulging in the trans experience even if you don't necessarily adopt the label. If you feel like you can provide a safe space for a girl who might have some stubble from time to time, or maybe male pattern baldness, or perhaps a cock, then t4t might be totally applicable for you!
As for attraction, loads of trans girls are lesbian or bi or pan or straight or ace or whatever else. Makes no difference to your transness. Finding a term that describes your sexuality can be more complicated if you're nonbinary or gender nonconforming, because you're sure as hell not straight (What does that even mean), but the words exist if you do find yourself feeling like you're in that part of the spectrum.
Good luck, have fun exploring your gender, and remember that trans girls need head pats 4-5 times a day as part of proper care.