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For context I'm not out to anyone and I still boymode (6months HRT)

I was at a party in a bar with friends 1 month ago, we took pictures together and posted them in a discord server, immediately a dude "V" asked if I was a real femboy. So now I have people asking me about it and I didn't reply.

Yesterday I had an eyelid surgery and I sent a picture in the group with my eye patch just for fun and V immediately went "yeah you're 100% a femboy I was certain of it" (in another language) and people AGREED???!!

I don't know what to do, on one hand I want to be a woman not a boy or a man, but on the other, since I probably won't pass until I get FFS I might as well say I am a femboy in the meantime, this way I can pretend to be a man and still wear what I want?

I'm not sure I would get treated better than if I was out as a trans woman. Feminine men get a lot of shit. But femboys seem to be trendy enough to be seen as weirdly cool. Idk...

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[–] MicrondeMMMMMMM@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

OMG thank you so much that was so kind and informative πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ

And yeah I agree having people that know about your gender identity tell you that you look fem without justification feels like they're just trying to please you. In that sense not being out as a trans woman is great because people comment on your femininity and you know it's genuine even though it can be used as an insult (call me a lesser man I'll nearly enjoy it lmao).

And yeah hang in there Hugu it's not easy, I'm sure you'll look the way you want soon enough!πŸ’œ Can I ask if you are considering HRT?

Really kind comment, thanks a lot! β˜ΊοΈπŸ’œ

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Yeah, I am considering it, when I get some more financial stability.

Specifically, about a new-ish (read: not very well researched yet) hormone, which has estrogen effects all over the body (and mentally), except the breasts where is produces significantly reduced growth (I think F1nn5ter is using it for his transition and was talking about it, though I didn't learn about it from him so I don't know what he said). (Imma look for its name later, and come back to write it if it's hard to find)

[–] MicrondeMMMMMMM@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I think it's SERM's, sounds cool! Good luck on your journey :)

[–] Daxter101@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

That is correct, I remember the discourse and comparison between raloxifene and tamoxifen. Their existence sounds very cool.

Thanks a lot!