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submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by Comp4@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

So, I'm currently dating someone, and it's my first time dating. I was a kissless virgin before this but I’m not kissless anymore ^^. Anyway, we get along really well, sharing a lot of interests and similar views. They're a "newer" lefty, but they have a good head on their shoulders and are open to learning. We’re really excited about each other. We've talked a lot over voice chat, had three dates so far, and exchange a bit of daily texting. At this point, I'm pretty sure we're going to become a couple, maybe even for a longer time.

Today is our 4th date, but I do not intend to tell them I love them because I'm not really sure how love feels. I definitely feel attraction, and it seems very mutual. I guess my question is: When do I tell someone I love them, and how do I know when I truly love them?

Im asking because this is literally my 1st time dating and I have never been involved in anything romantic.

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[-] RNAi@hexbear.net 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

It's always good to both know how engaged is the other part, in case any would like to go slower (or faster I guess). And it's important to be honest at it, cuz maybe saying "I love you" sounds like you are probably exagerating right now. Sure, you feel a strong conection, but how much do you actually know the other person to tell then that?

So, tell them you are falling hard for them, but wait some (months? Weeks? Idk mate you just feel it lol

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