I wish I had one but I suck at making and maintaining friendships. :(
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I hear you klemptor. It's not something that's taught in schools, some of it is pure luck and it's really hard to do. A lot of people lack people in their life but don't say anything because they fear judgement... there's a lot of people in the same boat as you, they're just not being open about it
My ex with which I had kids. We're co-parenting but separated. We're best friends. We separated in good terms and support each othet through everything.
That's the dream! How did you manage to do that?
Well the first thing was that way before we decided to have kids we both agreed that if we ever had kids then separated we would not have them live the chaos and woes that our own parents made us go through when they got separated and divorced. Our utopia was somehow co-owning a triplex and us having our own apartment and the kids being in the third unit so that we would be the one to switch every weeks but obviously that didn't happen because we're not rich 😅
But yeah, there's a deep mutual respect between us and there's obviously some kind of love but yeah, we make it work. It's not always easy especially when we have relationships outside of our parenting relationship but with communication and boundaries it's doable.
So yeah, I guess communication and having the same goals was the key to making this work.
You've put a lot of work into that, both before you had kids and after. You've really worked hard to be a good mom for them which is great. I agree mutual respect is key, as are boundaries and communication. Your hard work really has paid off!
my best friend. I consider her like a sister to me
That's great! How did you meet?
We met through a mutual friend from high school been friends for over 10 years
That's great I'm so glad you found each other
My main one is my best mate. She's hilarious, but she's also really caring without judgement. She gives me great advice, but also holds me accountable. She doesn't tell me what I want to hear she always tells me straight what I need to hear. We've been best mates for 10 years and I don't know what I'd do without her