My ex with which I had kids. We're co-parenting but separated. We're best friends. We separated in good terms and support each othet through everything.
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This is me and my ex. We are very close, and he and my husband go out for a drink sometimes. No regrets!
That's the dream! How did you manage to do that?
Well the first thing was that way before we decided to have kids we both agreed that if we ever had kids then separated we would not have them live the chaos and woes that our own parents made us go through when they got separated and divorced. Our utopia was somehow co-owning a triplex and us having our own apartment and the kids being in the third unit so that we would be the one to switch every weeks but obviously that didn't happen because we're not rich 😅
But yeah, there's a deep mutual respect between us and there's obviously some kind of love but yeah, we make it work. It's not always easy especially when we have relationships outside of our parenting relationship but with communication and boundaries it's doable.
So yeah, I guess communication and having the same goals was the key to making this work.
You've put a lot of work into that, both before you had kids and after. You've really worked hard to be a good mom for them which is great. I agree mutual respect is key, as are boundaries and communication. Your hard work really has paid off!
My main one is my best mate. She's hilarious, but she's also really caring without judgement. She gives me great advice, but also holds me accountable. She doesn't tell me what I want to hear she always tells me straight what I need to hear. We've been best mates for 10 years and I don't know what I'd do without her
Everybody deserves to have a relationship like this. Bravo.
😀 love your name BTW
My mom; she’s my rock. I’ve never met someone like her. She’s the perfect blend of strength and sweetness. I’ve learned so much from her and can always depend on her.
I love to hear of good mom's! Have you always been close?
In a way. The context of our relationship has changed. She went from being just my mom when I was younger; I didn’t always appreciate her sacrifices. As I got older, I was curious who my parents were as people (not just my parents), and it made me appreciate and admire both of them in a deeper way. My mom in particular since we’re both women lol. She’s been a great guide into adulthood.
Yes I understand that, as you've grown up the relationship has grown up with you. It's lovely to hear
I don't think I have a go-to girl 😭
You have a whole team of them in this community 😊
awwww 🥰 thank you 💖 🤗 ✨
The only girl in my life is my sister, since my mom died last year. Unless my husky counts. She's a girl.
Aw I'm sorry for your loss :(
Huskies are gorgeous! What are they like to manage?
Like working with a stubborn toddler.
Haha brilliant
My best friend Christina. She is amazing, and she inspires me to be more creative. She’s dealt with a lot of adversity in early life, and I appreciate how she doesn’t give up and continues to do the work to heal her wounds. She is also quirky in just the right way for me. We can talk about the weirdest shit and find common ground.
I wish I had one but I suck at making and maintaining friendships. :(
I hear you klemptor. It's not something that's taught in schools, some of it is pure luck and it's really hard to do. A lot of people lack people in their life but don't say anything because they fear judgement... there's a lot of people in the same boat as you, they're just not being open about it
my best friend. I consider her like a sister to me
That's great! How did you meet?
We met through a mutual friend from high school been friends for over 10 years
That's great I'm so glad you found each other