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We all have or had have one... whose yours?

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I don't think I have a go-to girl 😭

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 8 hours ago

You have a whole team of them in this community 😊

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 4 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (1 children)

The only girl in my life is my sister, since my mom died last year. Unless my husky counts. She's a girl.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 2 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Huskies are gorgeous! What are they like to manage?

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Like working with a stubborn toddler.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 5 hours ago

Haha brilliant

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

My best friend Christina. She is amazing, and she inspires me to be more creative. She’s dealt with a lot of adversity in early life, and I appreciate how she doesn’t give up and continues to do the work to heal her wounds. She is also quirky in just the right way for me. We can talk about the weirdest shit and find common ground.

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 5 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

My mom; she’s my rock. I’ve never met someone like her. She’s the perfect blend of strength and sweetness. I’ve learned so much from her and can always depend on her.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I love to hear of good mom's! Have you always been close?

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

In a way. The context of our relationship has changed. She went from being just my mom when I was younger; I didn’t always appreciate her sacrifices. As I got older, I was curious who my parents were as people (not just my parents), and it made me appreciate and admire both of them in a deeper way. My mom in particular since we’re both women lol. She’s been a great guide into adulthood.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 58 minutes ago

Yes I understand that, as you've grown up the relationship has grown up with you. It's lovely to hear

[–] klemptor@startrek.website 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

I wish I had one but I suck at making and maintaining friendships. :(

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 20 hours ago

I hear you klemptor. It's not something that's taught in schools, some of it is pure luck and it's really hard to do. A lot of people lack people in their life but don't say anything because they fear judgement... there's a lot of people in the same boat as you, they're just not being open about it

[–] UnderFreyja@lemmy.ca 6 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

My ex with which I had kids. We're co-parenting but separated. We're best friends. We separated in good terms and support each othet through everything.

[–] ickplant@lemmy.world 3 points 17 hours ago

This is me and my ex. We are very close, and he and my husband go out for a drink sometimes. No regrets!

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

That's the dream! How did you manage to do that?

[–] UnderFreyja@lemmy.ca 4 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Well the first thing was that way before we decided to have kids we both agreed that if we ever had kids then separated we would not have them live the chaos and woes that our own parents made us go through when they got separated and divorced. Our utopia was somehow co-owning a triplex and us having our own apartment and the kids being in the third unit so that we would be the one to switch every weeks but obviously that didn't happen because we're not rich πŸ˜…

But yeah, there's a deep mutual respect between us and there's obviously some kind of love but yeah, we make it work. It's not always easy especially when we have relationships outside of our parenting relationship but with communication and boundaries it's doable.

So yeah, I guess communication and having the same goals was the key to making this work.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 20 hours ago

You've put a lot of work into that, both before you had kids and after. You've really worked hard to be a good mom for them which is great. I agree mutual respect is key, as are boundaries and communication. Your hard work really has paid off!

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My main one is my best mate. She's hilarious, but she's also really caring without judgement. She gives me great advice, but also holds me accountable. She doesn't tell me what I want to hear she always tells me straight what I need to hear. We've been best mates for 10 years and I don't know what I'd do without her

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

Everybody deserves to have a relationship like this. Bravo.

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 hour ago

πŸ˜€ love your name BTW

[–] Alice@hilariouschaos.com 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

my best friend. I consider her like a sister to me

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's great! How did you meet?

[–] Alice@hilariouschaos.com 3 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

We met through a mutual friend from high school been friends for over 10 years

[–] CheeseToastie@lazysoci.al 3 points 23 hours ago

That's great I'm so glad you found each other