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[–] dan00@lemm.ee 14 points 2 days ago

90 days fiancee but the third world country is the US. Beautiful. I offer nederland tips!

[–] Kacarott@aussie.zone 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

This thread has given me ideas for a great new dating/emigration app

[–] Kurroth@aussie.zone 3 points 2 days ago

Include Australia/NZ if you do. We exist.

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[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 3 days ago (7 children)

if we all pool our money together we can buy an island for just queer people. :^

[–] bitwolf@sh.itjust.works 13 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I always have fantasized about getting a group of cool people, buying an island, establishing it in the world economy and starting a new world without the prejudice, discrimination, and microplastics. 😅

[–] bestagon@lemmy.world 13 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That’s when the CIA comes knocking

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[–] Lumiluz@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 days ago

Magneto?...

[–] Draegur@lemm.ee 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)
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[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 26 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (3 children)

Beautiful? Maybe. But I can guarantee that I can be a autistic and very clingy transfem gf with big boobs and masisve thighs

[–] AllBiMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 3 days ago

you had me at big boobs and thighs

[–] Droechai@lemm.ee 14 points 3 days ago (13 children)

Is Sweden an acceptable destination? I'm a bi-bear living with a bi-witch who has consented to a nonsexual-relationship twink living on our farm, but she would definitely prefer a big thighed woman instead

[–] Ziglin@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

A bear and witch sound like a lovely fairytale household that I'd enjoy having in my neighbourhood.

[–] tux7350@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago (2 children)

But what if I'm a bi-twink looking for a non-nonsexual relationship? :3

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[–] secret300@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 days ago

Had me at autistic and clingy too bad I'm stuck in this shit hole too

[–] Kurroth@aussie.zone 5 points 2 days ago

Australia here as well yo. Is there any latina nerdy shut-ins finally going to have a reason to be on the same side of the planet?

[–] Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 3 days ago (2 children)

How about an autistic german enby twink/twunk/femboy?

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[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 3 days ago (8 children)

Which country, and do you want to share my dildo collection?

[–] AllBiMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 17 points 3 days ago

The Netherlands and yes

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[–] lilith267@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 3 days ago (6 children)

My application:

Pros:

  • Great at cooking
  • Built several gardens and chicken coups
  • I have zero problem doing all the house chores if I get to wear a maid dress
  • Computer skillz, love selfhosting
  • Very good at handywork and fixing things

Cons:

  • Im anti (generative) ai (for eco and copyright reasons)
  • I will talk your ear off about planes, cars, trains, tanks, nuclear power, etc
  • And the worst offender: I play warthunder
[–] untorquer@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You're perfect!

I don't play top tier though, so as long as that's not a problem.

[–] lilith267@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Low teir is where all the fun is at!

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[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I feel like the US could use a chicken coup right now. Couldn't be worse than the dipshits currently in charge.

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[–] anton@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 days ago

I play warthunder

have you considered working for a spy agency? They can probably get you papers.

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago

2 of those cons are actually pros.

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[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 45 points 4 days ago (3 children)

hello. I have no useful life skills, but I am very good at sucking dick, and my ass is about a meter in circumference. If you want to take on the responsibility of owning a femboy, hit me up.

[–] Zink@programming.dev 46 points 4 days ago (1 children)

about a meter

Speaking metric already? This one has promising submissve qualities for you euro tops.

[–] NotSteve_@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Unfortunately not given the spelling of metre :(

[–] djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago

oh no! I'll do better, I wasn't aware!

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[–] Maxxie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 3 days ago

Let me just pack my programming socks

[–] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 20 points 3 days ago (1 children)

beautiful

There's always a catch 🙁

[–] AllBiMyself@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] kwedd@feddit.nl 50 points 4 days ago (4 children)

You don't even need to be beautiful. I just want someone to hold me while I cry myself to sleep.

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[–] Triasha@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

If I wasn't married I would be tempted

[–] burgermeister@lemm.ee 1 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Any Latina baddies hiring?

[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 days ago
[–] lars@lemmy.sdf.org 34 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Americans: sell your ring finger to immigrants ♥️

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