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Hi all! This is an alt for anonymity. Please be gentle, this is a hard topic for me to discuss.

I'm a progressive United States citizen who is looking to get out. I'm of Italian descent so I'm working on getting Italian citizenship through jure sanguinis, but it's going to take some time, if it works at all (gotta substantiate some relations) and won't extend to my husband until he completes a citizenship test, which he can do after living in Italy for two years.

Here's my big question: is moving to Italy even a good idea?

I know there's a significant element of fascism there, but that seems to be the case to varying extents throughout Europe. I've visited a few times as a tourist and everyone was very kind. I also have a US cousin that lives there as a permanent resident near Napoli and she is very encouraging, saying people will be welcoming. We don't want much, just to make a living and maybe have a kid.

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[–] Bloomcole@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 days ago

I'm not too fond of the plenty Americans having the same idea.
Stay there.

[–] Disinformation_Bot@lemm.ee -4 points 5 days ago (5 children)

Unless you're a directly targeted demographic, leaving the US is the coward's way out. You abandon everyone who doesn't have the means to flee. Stay and fight for something. Running away from problems doesn't solve them, it just cedes power to the problem.

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[–] wewbull@feddit.uk -2 points 6 days ago (2 children)

You emigrate to Italy and then you'll be an immigrant from the US. One's a verb, the other a noun.

Once you have Italian citizenship you'll be able to live an work anywhere in the Schengen region. So a lot more options once you're in.

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[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 70 points 1 week ago (3 children)

As I haven't seen this mentioned so far: Be sure that you both learn the language.

Seen a lot of posts in other immigration heavy subs/communities where people move to europe and don't make any effort on learning the local language, and then are surprised/depressed that they can't find any friends or jobs

[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 16 points 1 week ago (4 children)

I have an Italian friend, so tried to learn Italian. I did French at school (30 years ago), so how hard can it be, right?

Real fucking hard.

WHY DO SO MANY THINGS HAVE GENDERS?! WHY IS AN APPLE TREE HE, BUT AN APPLE IS SHE?! (or is it the other way around?)

I'm English, so I guess I'll just carry on the grand tradition of talking louder and using hand gestures.

[–] Damage@feddit.it 11 points 1 week ago

Most Italians don't speak correct Italian. As long as you make yourself understood, in day-to-day life it doesn't matter.

Of course work may require you to perfect your language skills for certain roles.

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[–] Damage@feddit.it 51 points 1 week ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (5 children)

Hello, Italian here.

So I've been a traveller most of my life, for work, and when I was younger, like so many Italians, I dreamed of emigrating to so many different places; life had other plans, and I stayied. Luckily I was able to make a career in a profitable field, and over time I came to appreciate my own country, always looking forward to coming back home.
There's much to be said for Italy's cultural heritage and natural beauty, and anywhere you may be in our country, a weekend getaway to visit a beatiful city, historical sites, beach or mountainside is always fairly accessible.

While the rightward move is worrisome, we also have the factor that governments in Italy rarely last to the end of their mandate (we've been getting better on that), let alone get elected more than once. Italy was never rid of fascism, in part because that wasn't in the US' interest, but also always had one of the strongest communist factions in Europe, so who knows.

What I've got to warn you about is economic struggles: Italy has among the lowest wages in developed Europe, for most of us it is impossible to afford an abode alone, most people wait until they're married because it takes two working people to be able to pay for a single apartment or house (houses for most people are only affordable way outside of cities) and where possible we get mortgages, because rents are impossible; all of our lives are coloured by monetary constraints: we drive small cars because they're cheaper to own and operate, we mostly hang clothes because driers are another appliance you have to buy and are expensive to run, we rely on a deteriorating public healthcare system because private healthcare is, while usually accessible, an expense we cannot afford.

That said, if you can manage to find good paying jobs, in my opinion this is a good place to live. Of course you need to speak Italian, there's very low knowledge of English here.
Best work chances are in the North, unfortunately it's also the least appealing when it comes to natural surroundings, fog, humid heat and bad weather are typical unless you go WAY north to the Alps. If you really feel the need to be in a left-leaning environment, Emilia Romagna is the "red" land of Italy, since the country's creation has always been governed by left wing parties, and as such has among the best public infrastructure.

Let me know if you need to know anything more.

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[–] lordnikon@lemmy.world 42 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean you don't have to live in Italy after getting your citizenship they are an EU country with freedom of moment.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

True, but my husband does for two years prior to getting his citizenship.

[–] logi@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Not really. Being married to an EU/EEA citizen he'll get a residence in any of the other ones. But having a full passport will cut down on paperwork in the long term.

Also, it's nice here in Italy. Come over! The wife and I have been here for 7 years and once the bureaucracy is dealt with it's (mostly) quite pleasant.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago

That's great! We're trying to be forward thinking with his citizenship. I want to be sure he's okay if I were to suddenly die or something.

Any recommendations on locations? We're thoroughly overwhelmed figuring this all out.

[–] kambusha@sh.itjust.works 11 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Not sure that's true. As an EU citizen, you can pretty much live anywhere in Europe. Then your husband can apply for spouse visa through you in that country. There are usually a couple of avenues available.

Edit: here's usually the requirements for staying beyond 3 months as an EU citizen in another country. Then once you get residence, you can apply for residence for your spouse.

For Stays Beyond 3 Months You must meet one of these conditions:

  • Be employed or self-employed
  • Have sufficient resources and health insurance to support yourself without becoming a burden on the social assistance system
  • Be studying with comprehensive health insurance and sufficient resources
  • Be a family member of an EU citizen who meets any of the above conditions
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[–] Wahots@pawb.social 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Progressive here too. We're staying on the blue coast.

Take a trip to Italy, as long as you can, and do a ton of research before you commit. That is a very large commitment, and you should have the language down pat, enough savings for a year, and a job lined up, or very strong prospects. If you are missing any of these things, I wouldn't recommend going.

For me personally, I wouldn't move unless there was significant danger. The grass is always greener. There will always be benefits and tradeoffs. I couldn't see my family moving to Italy, even if we were straight. Their slide is not too far off from our own.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 17 points 1 week ago (2 children)

US ex pat here:

I agree with a big decision, but I strongly disagree with needing the language down pat before you go. You should know some for sure, and mostly have a willingness to learn it. You're going to learn so much faster while there than you will studying in the US.

Just need enough language to get by at first

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[–] Electric_Cowboii@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Not to hate but what steps have you made to change your current situation? All Europe is moving towards the far right spectrum, if Italy were to be in the same boat are you going to keep on running? Why not try to improve your local community and make a change instead of running away. That’s the main reason why we are in this mess, instead of communities coming together, people leave and the o lay ones left behind are the ones voting for where we are at now.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago

No hate at all, it's a good question. We're both politically active, we even met at a protest lol. We've been involved in local politics for over a decade.

We're now in our thirties and are just tired of the US employment rat race and general political apathy. I'm not going to pretend we're not being selfish. We're just tired.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 12 points 1 week ago

Life is most certainly better in an Italian city then an America mid tier nothing city.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago (3 children)

What's one guy gonna do against 52% of Americans who came together in their communities and expressed the democratic will to choose Fascism?

[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 6 points 1 week ago (4 children)

52% of those who voted

In reality, Trump was voted in by around 32% of Americans who are eligible to vote. He's tearing everything apart with a mandate from 23% of the US population.

Democracy, baby!

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[–] SuluBeddu@feddit.it 19 points 1 week ago

Hi, Italian here

Italy, like many European countries, had strong social-democratic foundations. Many state jobs, strong state education, one of the best state healthcares out there, strong labour laws with contracts made by unions with specific job sectors.

That's now mostly on paper, and things change significantly from region to region. For example Emilia Romagna is still pretty strong on those, but go to the south and you'll see state school buildings being closed because they might collapse, or not offering any heating or A/C for the kids. Public healthcare is now very understaffed in most regions.

As for labour laws, companies aren't exactly too happy giving the expected raises or following work hours, and unskilled jobs are a disaster of underpay and unpaid overtime.

In general, social cohesion is hit or miss. Sure,most people are welcoming and friendly, but many of them are not paying all of their taxes. You're friends with the person in front of you, not with your whole nation.

Now that I broke some of the possible expectations: yes it's a good idea to come here. With time you will find some job, especially in the north and centre regions, just prepare for high rents in big cities and you'll be fine. Oh and possibly find somebody to help with taxes. If you decide for Rome, Napoli or Palermo, don't drive right away, take your time to learn how people drive here, what to expect etc

[–] PortoPeople@lemm.ee 18 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Italy is being run by fascist lite.

[–] stickly@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Is that any worse though?

Fascista Leggera βš–οΈ Full blown McFascism

[–] Damage@feddit.it 6 points 1 week ago

Fascista Superleggera V12

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[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

The far right national government certainly isn't good, but you're right that it's probably not that far off from most other big european countries. Definitely research the specific region you're moving to, there are often extremely large differences between regions in european countries when it comes to political leanings, general tolerance and economic opportunities and it's not always as clear-cut as "big cities good, countryside bad" or "north good, south bad".

[–] djsaskdja@reddthat.com 15 points 1 week ago (2 children)

You do realize you’re attempting to move to the country that invented fascism in an attempt to…escape fascism?

[–] ThunderclapSasquatch@startrek.website 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

They aren't too far behind us on the backslide either atm

[–] Thebigguy@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 week ago

There is a fascist party in power there rn

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 week ago

they're ahead of us; they've had a fascist leaders for a couple of years and have already legally disenfranchised many.

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[–] cujo@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I can't offer much but to say I'm quite jealous, lol. My wife and I have researched just about every possible opportunity to do the same, just to find everything either doesn't apply to us or is just out of reach at this time (and for the foreseeable future). Asking for help around this topic typically leads to an insane amount of backlash online, so I've found...

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, the Italian subs on the other place weren't very kind when I asked a few years ago.

If I might offer some possibly applicable advice, hire a genealogist if you think you're eligible but are stuck. I spent ten of hours researching what seemed like a dead end. We hired a genealogist who found what I needed in less than two hours and pointed out another eligible line I didn't know qualified.

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[–] mannycalavera@feddit.uk 12 points 1 week ago

If you're white and have a reasonable amount of money you'll be fine anywhere in Europe 😬..... I'm only half joking.

[–] HarkMahlberg@kbin.earth 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Just wanna say warm wishes, share your research if you find anything.

[–] tlekiteki@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 week ago

If you contribute financially you will find a warmer welcome, I guess

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 7 points 1 week ago (5 children)

I’m comparing my options with the US, China, and Japan. All three have their issues but quality of life is much higher in the latter two.

I would consider Italy to similarly have a much higher quality of life which is worth it with all politics aside.

You comment about Italy having been fascist, and I would respond with no matter what you think about the political situation in China life is leagues above that in the US. Point being it would very much be worth it!

[–] Inf_V@kbin.earth 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I'd vote with Japan tbh. there's some communities of foreigners that live around Tokyo usually.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

That’s our vote too currently :)

Plenty of Chinese and Americans in Tokyo and the best parts of China plus more. Also, a good location between the other two countries. If China didn’t have such a pollution problem it might be a more difficult choice. I really cherish the pristine nature in the US and Japan.

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[–] folaht@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I say go for it. You have better luck getting rid of fascism in Europe than you have in the US. Just know that if US influence is waning over this part of the world, it means US democrat as well. And China will likely become the new big influence on the region if not Russia. And such a transition will be very violent.

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