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Hi all! This is an alt for anonymity. Please be gentle, this is a hard topic for me to discuss.

I'm a progressive United States citizen who is looking to get out. I'm of Italian descent so I'm working on getting Italian citizenship through jure sanguinis, but it's going to take some time, if it works at all (gotta substantiate some relations) and won't extend to my husband until he completes a citizenship test, which he can do after living in Italy for two years.

Here's my big question: is moving to Italy even a good idea?

I know there's a significant element of fascism there, but that seems to be the case to varying extents throughout Europe. I've visited a few times as a tourist and everyone was very kind. I also have a US cousin that lives there as a permanent resident near Napoli and she is very encouraging, saying people will be welcoming. We don't want much, just to make a living and maybe have a kid.

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[–] puntinoblue@lemmy.ml 2 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Italy has just changed it’s rules on citizenship. You now need to prove you had an Italian parent or grandparent in order to be eligible. Before, there was no generational cut off.

https://www.reuters.com/world/europe/italy-curbs-citizenship-rules-end-tenuous-descendant-claims-2025-03-28/

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

I literally just read about this. There goes that opportunity. Ugh.

[–] puntinoblue@lemmy.ml 2 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Depends on how committed you are to the change.

Here’s the Reddit sub on the issue of citizenship by ancestry: https://www.reddit.com/r/juresanguinis/

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

Thanks for the link. I don't understand your comment, though.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 1 day ago

I was planning on leaving if the orange got reelected. I only didn't because in the years between when I made that decision (2021) and now, I found myself in a relationship cohabitating with my partner. She's here as a refugee and can't leave or that gets rescinded. It took some serious soul searching to decide to retract my longstanding plan to escape this hellish fascist-speedrun. I was even doing phone interviews. If you think you could be happy, do it.

[–] vfreire85@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

politically speaking i think that makes no sense. i mean, you're leaving because of the far right in power in the u.s., but then again italy is being governed by the far right. leaving your country, and therefore much of what you know, your support network, for political reasons only makes sense if there's a well funded fear for your life because of your political activities. in that case i (as a communist) would probably go to a country with bland politics (where the far right would have no risk of reaching power for at least 10 years or so), or a straight up communist country, even if not of the same persuation.

there are other things that might make italy more attractive, such as having public healthcare, decent education, some social security coverage (subpar as compared to much of the rest of western europe, i think), cheap groceries. however, on the other side, housing and utilities are expensive. it will be better if you have a degree or some sort of qualification in high demand, it will be easier for you to get a job. however, when you're an immigrant, locals will probably give preference to other locals, at least because it will be easier to communicate with.

Yes but isn't Italy part of the EU? Once he's in, it is easier to move to a different more liberal country member of the Union.

[–] LordWiggle@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago (3 children)

I wouldn't want to live near Napoli, or anywhere in the south. Italy is basically 2 countries. The rich north and the extremily poor south. It's a nice country but also has it's own issues. I love to go on holiday there, don't know if I would want to live there. But I have the luxury of living in The Netherlands, I guess anything is better than the US right now. Knowing the language helps a lot, if you do not speak it then for sure learn Italian, even if it's just the basics. Americans don't have a great status as expats or tourists, anywhere really, adjusting to the customs and loosing the americanism is recommended.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Might I ask about your concerns about Napoli? Are they more than crime?

Are there any areas you'd recommend? We're looking for more community/family engagement and a slower lifestyle, if it helps.

[–] LordWiggle@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I was just a tourist, so take that into account. But in Napoli I felt fine on the main shopping streets, but when I would take a side road I felt very unsafe and watched. It's clear you don't belong there and you feel a target on your back, or at least that was my experience. Tourist heavy areas are better, but there are more pickpockets there too. I felt like I constantly had to look over my shoulder and shouldn't divert too far from the busy roads.

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[–] pH3ra@lemmy.ml 31 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Italian living in Italy here.
Yes we have fascists but the americans who commented this post ignore a couple things:

  1. our form of government is different from yours, the multi-partisan system helps keeping those things in check;
  2. Italy is a founding member of EU and is financially depending on it, so even the fascist know that they cannot just do what they want, otherwhise Bruxelles might pull the plug.

Thus said, the problem here is another: jobs. There is a high level of unemployment, expecially among people that don't work in super specialized environments, like engineering, CS or healthcare, just to make some examples. I have a lot of friends and relatives that had to move abroad just to make a living.
And I mean A LOT: my best friend lives in Australia, my brother in Ireland, literally half of the company I hanged out with as a teenager lives in Holland and I myself lived in Spain for a couple years before getting an opportunity here. So, unless you work one of these jobs I suggest you to priorityze another country.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thanks for your response. The multi-party government is exactly what kept us interested in Italy. We can both work remotely, so that's the plan for income, plus we inherited a bit of money when my husband's father passed. Nothing huge but we won't show up destitute.

[–] pH3ra@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you have the possibility to work remotely, this might help a lot.

On a side note, there is something I feel I have to be honest towards you: Jure Sanguinis is a gimmick of the fascist party (they are so fond of Latin names).
They think you have more right to be Italian if your grandfather left the country, because it was a shit place job-wise as it is now, and you know fuck all of our culture than if you lived here your whole life, perfectly integrated, went through school here, work here, pay taxes here but just happened to be born in another country: a friend of mine from Albania had to jump through incredible hoops and managed to get citizenship at 26 despite living here since she was fucking 2 y.o.
Do what you will with this information.

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[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 69 points 3 days ago (3 children)

As I haven't seen this mentioned so far: Be sure that you both learn the language.

Seen a lot of posts in other immigration heavy subs/communities where people move to europe and don't make any effort on learning the local language, and then are surprised/depressed that they can't find any friends or jobs

[–] friendlyghost@lemm.ee 8 points 3 days ago

I agree only like 20% with this. I’m an European who migrated for studies and work to 5 other European countries. It does help to learn the language but if you go to a big city or a university town, most people will speak English and you only need to learn the coffee place/restaurant/supermarket basics. It’s still a big decision and op shouldn’t do it on a whim

[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 16 points 3 days ago (4 children)

I have an Italian friend, so tried to learn Italian. I did French at school (30 years ago), so how hard can it be, right?

Real fucking hard.

WHY DO SO MANY THINGS HAVE GENDERS?! WHY IS AN APPLE TREE HE, BUT AN APPLE IS SHE?! (or is it the other way around?)

I'm English, so I guess I'll just carry on the grand tradition of talking louder and using hand gestures.

[–] Blisterexe@lemmy.zip 1 points 1 day ago

fun fact! In french, the slang word for penis (bite) is feminine, so it's la bite.

Makes total sense

WHY IS AN APPLE TREE HE, BUT AN APPLE IS SHE?!

Just wait until you learn about eggs, ears or fingers

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[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

100%. We're taking classes and using Babbel already, just in preparation. I doubt we'll be fluent by the time we'd move, but we'll be functional. We just don't want to be more entitled Americans who expect everyone to speak English. We want to do the work.

[–] Damage@feddit.it 51 points 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

Hello, Italian here.

So I've been a traveller most of my life, for work, and when I was younger, like so many Italians, I dreamed of emigrating to so many different places; life had other plans, and I stayied. Luckily I was able to make a career in a profitable field, and over time I came to appreciate my own country, always looking forward to coming back home.
There's much to be said for Italy's cultural heritage and natural beauty, and anywhere you may be in our country, a weekend getaway to visit a beatiful city, historical sites, beach or mountainside is always fairly accessible.

While the rightward move is worrisome, we also have the factor that governments in Italy rarely last to the end of their mandate (we've been getting better on that), let alone get elected more than once. Italy was never rid of fascism, in part because that wasn't in the US' interest, but also always had one of the strongest communist factions in Europe, so who knows.

What I've got to warn you about is economic struggles: Italy has among the lowest wages in developed Europe, for most of us it is impossible to afford an abode alone, most people wait until they're married because it takes two working people to be able to pay for a single apartment or house (houses for most people are only affordable way outside of cities) and where possible we get mortgages, because rents are impossible; all of our lives are coloured by monetary constraints: we drive small cars because they're cheaper to own and operate, we mostly hang clothes because driers are another appliance you have to buy and are expensive to run, we rely on a deteriorating public healthcare system because private healthcare is, while usually accessible, an expense we cannot afford.

That said, if you can manage to find good paying jobs, in my opinion this is a good place to live. Of course you need to speak Italian, there's very low knowledge of English here.
Best work chances are in the North, unfortunately it's also the least appealing when it comes to natural surroundings, fog, humid heat and bad weather are typical unless you go WAY north to the Alps. If you really feel the need to be in a left-leaning environment, Emilia Romagna is the "red" land of Italy, since the country's creation has always been governed by left wing parties, and as such has among the best public infrastructure.

Let me know if you need to know anything more.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Thank you so much for a very helpful and detailed response. We're both planning on working remotely and we'd actually prefer to live outside of the cities. I'm good at learning languages and my husband is bilingual and excellent with accents, so we will work at being fluent in the language of wherever we settle.

In your opinion, can we ever be fully accepted by any Italian community or will we always be "that (hopefully) nice American couple". I worry because we're missing all the cultural touchstones gained from growing up in Italy. We've been advised to be persistently nice with neighbors and that bigger cities will have English speaking immigrants we can meet up with, but we really want to integrate, acknowledging it'll take time and effort. Do you think that is possible?

[–] Damage@feddit.it 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We’re both planning on working remotely and we’d actually prefer to live outside of the cities.

Meaning you already have jobs lined up for this? Remote work in Italy is not uncommon but not super common either, and usually it's not full remote. Be aware that many areas of Italy have poor connection speeds.

can we ever be fully accepted by any Italian community

I don't see why not. Maybe focus on being yourselves rather than what you want to be seen as! Of course making new friends as adults always presents challenges, anywhere, but Italians are known to be friendly and outgoing.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Meaning you already have jobs lined up for this?

Yeah, we already work remotely. My employer is fine with my working anywhere in the world. My husband's employer isn't, but he's working on new employment. We can survive on my income alone.

Maybe focus on being yourselves rather than what you want to be seen as!

Thanks, that's the plan! We're both friendly and outgoing, I think more than most Americans, so I'm hoping that helps.

Thanks again for the info and your encouragement. We experienced a lot of xenophobia when we previously asked on Reddit, so this has been really refreshing.

[–] Damage@feddit.it 3 points 1 day ago

If you need anything else let me know! Godspeed.

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[–] McOkapi@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 days ago

Learn the language as soon as possible, at least basic level. Bureaucracy is going to be hell, there's no nicer way to put it. But I think you'll enjoy living in Italy. You are not happy where you are now, so it's great you're doing something about it. Best of luck!

[–] Wahots@pawb.social 35 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Progressive here too. We're staying on the blue coast.

Take a trip to Italy, as long as you can, and do a ton of research before you commit. That is a very large commitment, and you should have the language down pat, enough savings for a year, and a job lined up, or very strong prospects. If you are missing any of these things, I wouldn't recommend going.

For me personally, I wouldn't move unless there was significant danger. The grass is always greener. There will always be benefits and tradeoffs. I couldn't see my family moving to Italy, even if we were straight. Their slide is not too far off from our own.

[–] frank@sopuli.xyz 17 points 3 days ago (1 children)

US ex pat here:

I agree with a big decision, but I strongly disagree with needing the language down pat before you go. You should know some for sure, and mostly have a willingness to learn it. You're going to learn so much faster while there than you will studying in the US.

Just need enough language to get by at first

[–] chobeat@lemmy.ml 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)

anywhere outside Milan you won't be able to rely on English for anything. Bureaucracy and services are going to be a nightmare without conversational Italian.

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[–] orcrist@lemm.ee 5 points 2 days ago

Moving to another country, especially when the native language is not English, that's a massive challenge. It's important that you're going there for a positive reason. Otherwise you could have chosen anywhere, right? So your motivation to be a community member there would be low. So don't just run away from Musk. Find other goals and reasons to aim for Italy.

Also, every country and city has some assholes loving in it. Not everyone is very kind. That's life.

[–] lordnikon@lemmy.world 42 points 3 days ago (5 children)

I mean you don't have to live in Italy after getting your citizenship they are an EU country with freedom of moment.

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[–] djsaskdja@reddthat.com 15 points 3 days ago (4 children)

You do realize you’re attempting to move to the country that invented fascism in an attempt to…escape fascism?

[–] chobeat@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 days ago

We are also the first country that got rid of fascism πŸ˜‰

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[–] SuluBeddu@feddit.it 19 points 3 days ago

Hi, Italian here

Italy, like many European countries, had strong social-democratic foundations. Many state jobs, strong state education, one of the best state healthcares out there, strong labour laws with contracts made by unions with specific job sectors.

That's now mostly on paper, and things change significantly from region to region. For example Emilia Romagna is still pretty strong on those, but go to the south and you'll see state school buildings being closed because they might collapse, or not offering any heating or A/C for the kids. Public healthcare is now very understaffed in most regions.

As for labour laws, companies aren't exactly too happy giving the expected raises or following work hours, and unskilled jobs are a disaster of underpay and unpaid overtime.

In general, social cohesion is hit or miss. Sure,most people are welcoming and friendly, but many of them are not paying all of their taxes. You're friends with the person in front of you, not with your whole nation.

Now that I broke some of the possible expectations: yes it's a good idea to come here. With time you will find some job, especially in the north and centre regions, just prepare for high rents in big cities and you'll be fine. Oh and possibly find somebody to help with taxes. If you decide for Rome, Napoli or Palermo, don't drive right away, take your time to learn how people drive here, what to expect etc

[–] Electric_Cowboii@lemmy.ml 23 points 3 days ago (10 children)

Not to hate but what steps have you made to change your current situation? All Europe is moving towards the far right spectrum, if Italy were to be in the same boat are you going to keep on running? Why not try to improve your local community and make a change instead of running away. That’s the main reason why we are in this mess, instead of communities coming together, people leave and the o lay ones left behind are the ones voting for where we are at now.

[–] AHamSandwich@lemmy.world 30 points 3 days ago

No hate at all, it's a good question. We're both politically active, we even met at a protest lol. We've been involved in local politics for over a decade.

We're now in our thirties and are just tired of the US employment rat race and general political apathy. I'm not going to pretend we're not being selfish. We're just tired.

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[–] PortoPeople@lemm.ee 18 points 3 days ago (3 children)

Italy is being run by fascist lite.

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