Women only trans inclusive This is an inclusive community for all things women. Whether you're here for make up tips, feminism or just friendly chit chat, we've got you covered.
Be kind to yourself, especially when you're struggling. This one is tough for me because I'm forever calling myself an idiot or lazy when I know I'm neither of those things. But talking down to yourself is harmful and demoralizing*. I'm really trying to practice patience with myself, and to talk to myself as kindly as I would a dear friend. And praise yourself when you do something well!
* Unless I know I'm being genuinely lazy, then a verbal kick in the pants can help ;)
Fun... that part of your body you hate? I can pretty much guarantee you people haven't noticed flaws with it and if they did, it doesn't mean much to them. So you can relax, nobody is looking at it!
Serious... always trust your gut instinct. Always. It's your unconscious telling you something. If a man gives you the heeby jeebies and you don't know why, stay away. If you get an urge to GTFO of somewhere, go. It's saved many women a lot of pain!
Fun… that part of your body you hate? I can pretty much guarantee you people haven’t noticed flaws with it and if they did, it doesn’t mean much to them. So you can relax, nobody is looking at it!
There was an old meme that was like Woman: "he's probably so turned off by my [some body thing]" Guy: "omg omg omg she's letting me touch her this is amazing"
This scales down to non intimite scenes, too. The product manager lady at my old job once remarked unfavourably on her body and it surprised me. She always looked like a well dressed, healthy, attractive, person to me. I had given zero thought to the thing she complained about.
Adding to this, I'm often really amazed when I do notice some imperfection someone has and they're just... Rocking it? Like, they're not ashamed and something about that confidence turns it into a positive. I fully stopped dying my hair because I saw someone I admire embracing the whites, and she's stunning. Very well put together too, just doesn't consider this one thing to be a beauty necessity. And sometimes those little differences from the norm are just awesome.
Ha that meme is so accurate! I remember my mate saying whenever he was with a woman the only thing he was thinking was "OMG this is great!!" And literally nothing else
Yes, your gut instinct is so important! It doesn't matter if you know exactly why you feel the need to get out. Your subconscious knows something's off, and that's enough. Just get out!
Take care of your reproductive system even if you do not want to have kids. A healthy reproductive cycle means you are healthy.
Try not to stress about small things and prioritise sleep.
Don’t settle for a “meh” partner, learn how to be happy alone and the right partner will probably come, even if later in life. You can receive love and affection even if it is not romantic. Invest in time with friends and families (except the toxic ones).
I love these ones! I personally agree on not settling, I'm single which is right for me. The reproductive cycle one is something I've never thought of...how do you take care of yours?
Regarding the fertility, well, I wish I have known more stuff about it when I was younger. I always had a chaotic menstrual cycle, but I did not pay to much attention to it. Now I have an age, and we are trying for a baby if it works out, I would have loved to have a normal cycle already. I would highly recommend the book Real Food for Fertility by Lily Nichols. What I discovered there, in my case, I ate too little protein, I probably need more magnesium, iodine and stuff like that. I made some changes in diet, supplements and focused on sleeping better, moving more, stressing less, but it is a journey. And when you have an age, time is scarce. So better to be informed and do things about it, so that one is healthy and has also a smooth period-menopause and menopause.
Mate I had no idea about most of that thanks for sharing! Can I bookmark it to refer people to if they ask about fertility?
Of course!
Thanks Peaches
Be proud!