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[–] hightrix@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago

The world actually did end in 2012.

This is hell.

[–] LisoPaine@lemm.ee 20 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Nuclear energy is currently the best way to achieve energetic independence until we find out how to maintain a fusion core running for more than 20 minute.

[–] Longpork3@lemmy.nz 7 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Solar started to beat out nuclear in terms of LCOE a few years ago. We should continue to operate all of our current nuclear reactors as long as it is safe to do so, but planning new builds today given how cheap solar is just doesnt make sense.

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[–] easily3667@lemmus.org 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You mean fission, but yeah

[–] Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 1 points 10 hours ago

Fission is the one we already do where unstable atoms come apart. Fusion is the one still in experimental stages.

[–] sexy_peach@feddit.org 5 points 2 days ago

The "phones are bad and suck your life away" crowd has gotten way too big. Yes, it's easy to waste time on them, but that's just something you gotta learn, like not watching TV series all night. You're a grown up, deal with it. Also maybe you feel bad for spending all that time on your phone just because feeling bad for that feels cool? It's actually your life you can spend it however you want. You don't need to be productive or successful to be a worthy human. Be a lazy shit that plays stupid phone games while on a train to work.

[–] UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 days ago

First-past-the-post voting should be replaced so people can vote outside the two party system with no spoiler effect.

Electoral Reform Videos

First Past The Post voting (What most states use now)

Videos on alternative electoral systems

STAR voting

Alternative vote

Ranked Choice voting

Range Voting

Single Transferable Vote

Mixed Member Proportional representation

[–] endeavor@sopuli.xyz 19 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Vinyl sounds shit. It reintroduces all the issues digital audio solved decades ago. I have heard vinyl rips made with equipment that costs as much as a new bmw and it has constant and frequent quality issues like static. It also has to downgrade audio sometimes to prevent the needle from physically flying out. It is impossible for vinyl to sound as good as the digital master or flac version of it that it was made from. It WILL always sound worse even thanks to the fact that physical world is very flawed and imprecise.

People arguing otherwise are either deaf or need to look in the mirror and accept the fact that they enjoy vinyl for the experience not the sound quality.

[–] bluewing@lemm.ee 19 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Meh, the under lying extra noise is what those people are looking for and not the purity of the sound. Which supposedly ties back to the inherent sound of live music which isn't cleaned up digitally.

It's all potatoes no matter which kind of audiophile a person is.

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 15 points 2 days ago (9 children)

DND is not a good universal game system. It's pretty good at being DND, but that's a particular beast that's mostly about resource management.

You can definitely use it for a game about social intrigue, or horror, or modern day anything, but it's not really good at any of that. Like using a hammer to put screws in, you'll probably get something done, and if you're hanging with your friends you'll probably have a good time. But it's a weird tool to reach for.

Personally, I don't think the core of the rules system is very good at all. Flat probability feels weird. Armor as all-or-nothing is weird. Hit and damage being split into two rolls is slow and weird. In the latest edition, making very few choices about your character often feels bad. Levels are a very coarse unit of growth. The magic system somehow manages to make magic not feel like magic- no wonder, no mystery, it's just safe and standardized. I could go on.

But it's mega popular and people are emotionally invested, so there's not much to be done about it. There are dozens of people playing the thousands of other games out there.

Also a lot of people have never played anything else, so their analysis and defense of it is often lacking. Like if I've only ever played baseball, and never even watched any other sports, I wouldn't feel qualified to talk about bowling. But you get people saying like "no you need to wear cleats that's a universal property of sports" when bowling comes up. Like, not every game has six stats. Not every game has attributes like that at all.

And again, if you're having fun with dnd then that's the primary goal achieved. We don't need to maximize fun and efficiency in all things all times. I just think that it would be a good experience to branch out more, even if it's scary, because that will lead to a richer experience overall.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Completely agree, D&D is overly crunchy and I have no interest in a tedious minis wargame in the middle of my roleplaying. The Basic system that Call of Cthulhu was based on is much easier for newcomers to understand with everything being simple percentages, and the system is open-ended enough to make combat as simple or crunchy as you would like - but either way, it's such a better way to facilitate a roleplay gaming session. It's just sad that the only people I know who play tabletop RPGs are so extremely invested in the D&D intellectual property that they won't even consider anything outside of it. I could give a shit less about D&D's worldbuilding and lore, it's not what I love about roleplaying - it's about the collective story we tell and the fun we had along the way.

[–] theblips@lemm.ee 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I feel there's plenty of interest in other RPGs if you go outside the core community. I have never been remotely interested in playing DnD, so I never got a "real RPG gamer" group, because why play anything if you can run Curse of Strahd for the 100th time.
Well, it just so happens that I got my SO to play some Mothership duet sessions with me and it was great. Then some uni friends who were fans of LOTR to play The One Ring... And now I have an ongoing TOR 2e table and a passionate duet player looking to play more horror games (we're starting Delta Green this week). The most common reasons for these people never having played RPGs? "Too many rules and stats" or straight up "DnD is too hard".
We sometimes talk about DnD as some sort of necessary evil, but it's honestly a hindrance. "Normies" get pretty excited about RPGs once they learn there's more than a fantasy setting designed to be the lowest common denominator and sell miniatures

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 points 1 day ago

I do believe that DND is a poor first RPG, and creates a weird survivor bias in the hobby. Because it's so popular most people try it as their first RPG, and then some of them hate it. Some of them then think the whole hobby is like that, and then leave.

So the bulk of the people left in the hobby are people who like dnd, or at least tolerate it enough to stick around.

One of my friends has no real interest in fantasy, tactical combat (as much as DND is that), or resource management. They had no interest in DND. But they really liked Vampire.

I keep trying to get people to play fate, but all of these games struggle with finding people who will show up. Everyone seems to be just barely holding it together, and asking them to be creative and present once a week seems like a big request

[–] Imadethis@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I love d&d because I grew up with it, but absolutely agree with you. I think that with new players, involving them in the world for roleplay is the most critical part, and character creation with Fate is the best I've seen for someone to pick up and use in 10 minutes.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 2 points 1 day ago

I love Fate and think it's much more intuitive. DND tends to crush player creativity with a lot of "sorry that's just flavor", and guides players towards "just move and attack".

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[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 day ago

The icing is the only part I like - I literally eat the cake separately so that I can maximize the icing-to-cake ratio in a single bite.

This is mostly because frosting is "wet" and offsets how dry the cake is. I dislike the dryness of the cake so much I prefer to eat most of it in one go and get over it, and then enjoy the rest of the cupcake with my preferred 9:1 proportion of icing to cake. 😆

[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Blessing someone for a sneeze is the most useless human interaction I know of and we should do away with it.

[–] Deathray5@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Lemminary@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Listen here you little shit lol

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[–] thatradomguy@lemmy.world 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Modern flip phones (e.g. Samsung Fold) are stupid and tacky and will never be as good as previous gen flip phones. Just won't. Sorry not sorry.

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[–] Ilixtze@lemm.ee 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The contemporary disdain for postmodernism was a Psy op designed to completely destroy philosophy from the inside. And the supposed replacements for post modernism (metamodernism or whatever) were just pop culture millennial distractions that just took attention away from the philosophical issues of the inadequacies of language and crisis of our communications systems. We became stuck in limbo. Cultural conversation dumbed down by useless culture wars articulated in low attention span pop culture commentary and therapy speak.

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[–] Etterra@discuss.online 3 points 2 days ago

That exclusive content in physical games is a cruel disservice to late discoverers. "Exclusive" content should just be delayed public release content instead - something for the early adopters, but not unavailable to people years later.

Even just the normal game, if they're discontinuing production, should be made available as a digital purchase (including STL and print-ready files) for people coming along years later. We have the technology to not screw over potential future fans, and it's not that expensive to keep a small website running - especially if they're still going as a company. Looking at you, CMON Games.

[–] failsatfunny@lemm.ee 32 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Depending on how the next four years go, probably Capitol.

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[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 47 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

I'm so out of shape right now, it'll probably be whichever one I try to climb next.

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[–] Kecessa@sh.itjust.works 100 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (14 children)

All billionaires are evil people that decide to accumulate wealth instead of distributing the surplus and living off enough to not have to worry about the future. All. Of. Them.

Yes, even Taylor Swift and Gabe Newell. They have enough money that they could set 100m aside, live off that and charge break-even prices for their products so more people could enjoy them or they could charge the same thing and redirect their share of the profits into charities, they choose not to.

[–] sexy_peach@feddit.org 3 points 2 days ago

I agree and it's pretty obvious if you think about it for a short while.

Even religions know this, it's just a simple fact of life.

[–] Rogue@feddit.uk 2 points 2 days ago

You are completely correct. There are so many exits before becoming a billionaire that any normal person would take.

Once you have millions you can live comfortable. Tens of millions and you're set for life, you can live in luxury without ever doing another day's work.

Hundreds of millions and you can buy anything you ever want or need. The only reason to continue accumulating money is because you get some fucked up pleasure from it.

You can claim you "earned it" through "working hard" but it's a pathetic assertion. The simple fact is money is only gained at the expense of others.

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[–] ERROR_100_000_100@infosec.pub 14 points 3 days ago (9 children)

2FA is too inconvienient* and I think using a password manager to generate a very long password is good enough.

Software 2FA is not even that much more secure to be worth the inconvienience.

And for hardware 2FA keys, there is a higher chance for me to misplace those keys than getting hacked. (I don't have friends to put a backup key in and I don't wanna pay for a safe deposit box)

[*For me personally, your security needs might be different. I don't work with any sensitive classified info or anything like that.]

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

honestly computer security has the mindset of authoritarians, you can tell how much law enforcement and legal compliance influences the field

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[–] Chef_Boyardee@lemm.ee 24 points 3 days ago (8 children)
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[–] reddig33@lemmy.world 36 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Fondant isn’t icing and is cheating when making a cake. It also tastes gross.

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[–] vithigar@lemmy.ca 10 points 2 days ago

I will never play a game that needs admin elevation to run, I don't care how good it allegedly is.

I've missed out on playing several games with friends due to this stance. Star Wars: The Old Republic was the first I can remember. Marvel Rivals is the most recent.

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