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[–] unsettlinglymoist@lemmy.world 15 points 22 hours ago (3 children)

Hard water vs soft water.

So many times we've been in a hotel room and I've taken a shower and commented on what soft water it is because it feels like the soap never rinses off and I feel slippery all over. She always tries to correct me by calling it hard water. She grew up in a desert city that has naturally hard water, so she'll always say, "I know what hard water is, I grew up with hard water!" when the "hard" water she grew up with was softened by some means. It doesn't matter how many articles and blog posts and ChatGPT sessions on the topic I show her, she always insists they're wrong and she's right. We argued about it a few times in the past, but now it's a running joke between us.

[–] TheRealKuni@midwest.social 2 points 9 hours ago

Okay, so the water in hotels that sucks at getting soap off (it doesn’t really, but it feels like it does) is softened water. It has been treated to remove calcium, magnesium, and other cations, to prevent scale buildup.

As I understand it skin feels slippery like it hasn’t removed the soap for potentially a few reasons. General consensus is that either you’re feeling whatever salt they put in the water to treat it, or you’re feeling the lack of those minerals. That is, you’re use to the water making your skin feel less slippery because of the various minerals in it, so the absence of those minerals makes it feel slippery. You get used to this eventually, but it’s annoying if you aren’t used to softened water.

The confusion comes in because in home water systems, you really only need a water softener if the water in the area is particularly hard. So it’s easy to associate softened water with hard water. Because you don’t really need to soften water that isn’t high in mineral deposits (unless you’re a hotel trying to minimize cleaning costs and are treating a fuckload of water centrally).

So you’re both right. It’s soft water because it’s been softened. And it’s been softened because it’s hard water. 😂

[–] colourlessidea@sopuli.xyz 4 points 18 hours ago

Just had this discussion/argument with my mom last week!

[–] BigxRedxHusker@midwest.social 6 points 20 hours ago

Oh man do I hate soft water. Granted soap doesn't lather as well with hard water but whenever I shower someplace with soft water I feel like I'm spending 20 minutes just trying to get the soap off. Also I hate drinking softwater

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 8 points 21 hours ago

My wife's siblings and her all have the same weird trait: when things get stressful, they clam up and do this "shut up and let me save the world" thing. Her sister's worked on it a lot because #fireman, but it's a strong compulsion.

The "hmm, maybe if you'd talked to anyone instead of going missing-person" is extra fun when it's a tech thing, as after the stress and the teeth-pulling contextual questions, it's two mouse clicks and an object lesson.

And, when THAT fight's over....

[–] kat_angstrom@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (3 children)

It has become an ongoing issue that my wife complains that she smells something, then gets angry at me if I am unable to smell that same smell, sometimes accusing me of gas lighting her or calling her a liar, when actually I just don't smell the smell she's smelling.

I'm not making implications or accusations, I'm not trying to mislead or confuse her, I just can't smell whatever she's smelling and that fact frustrates the heck out of her as though I'm personally letting her down. Then she gets a bit aggro and I have to change the garbages / kitchen compost in the hopes that perhaps those are the sources of the smells I can't smell. Sometimes that helps. She will never change the garbage or take out the compost herself.

When she insisted that she smelled a gas leak from our furnace that I couldn't smell, we called a professional who confirmed our furnace was working fine and there was no gas leak; but I was still the villain for denying the gas leak ahead of time. Three times in the last 6 months this has been a thing.

[–] macgyver@federation.red 3 points 6 hours ago

Hey, not sure how old y’all are and such, but this can be a sign of dementia. This happened with my great grandma telling us things smelled of sulphur.

[–] TheRealKuni@midwest.social 3 points 9 hours ago

Flip the script, say she’s gaslighting you by pretending to smell things that aren’t there.

(Don’t actually do this unless you really hate your relationship.)

[–] dumples@midwest.social 7 points 19 hours ago

My wife also has a better sense of smell then me. We don't fight about it but I have spent a bunch of time trying to find the phantom smell.

She's pregnant now and her super smell is even more potent. So I had to do a lot of kitchen cleaning and I had to a lot of cooking. It's a thing for sure

The dumb part of any dispute I've had with my wife is thinking I could win.

[–] driving_crooner 15 points 1 day ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (2 children)

I attacked my wife on the Game of Thrones board game while she was at 6 castles and I was at 4.

[–] theblips@lemm.ee 1 points 17 hours ago

I just decided not to play games that cutthroat with mine

[–] sucoiri@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

How dare you, that's a relationship ender right there

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 55 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (8 children)

My ex-spouse accused me of cheating on him.

.....with a character in the video game.

.....because I "clearly love him more that you love me!"

Whenever he'd be upset (for whatever reason), he would snap and say "Why don't you go talk to the person you actually love??" before giving me the silent treatment until he needed something.

It was the beginning of the end.

Don't miss it lol

EDIT: oh fuck, I forgot.. he actually sold our PS4 containing the game/save file completely out of the blue a few months after his first accusation, without telling me first. The game in question was "Stardew Valley". He was a shitty little man.

[–] _g_be@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

I bet he was short and sensitive about it lol

[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

Lol, my girlfriend says she always marries Sebastian because he reminds her of me. I hope that's a good thing. She wants me to play but I struggle getting into top-down games 😕

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Wifey found your post very insightful and also funny. Despite not being funny. As we're currently in a stardew-marathon and she (being not a hardcore gamer) asked me if I knew if anyone ever fell in love with an NPC. I didn't knew, then I stumbled upon your comment and showed her 😁

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's funny in its own weird way! No worries.

I tried to show the game to my then-spouse, because I wanted him to play, too! He didn't want to play """a lame girl game""".

Have a fun marathon!! And keep doing stuff together! (:

[–] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 4 points 18 hours ago

Sounds like you dodged a bullet... What's more manly than playing a dating farmer that wears a dotted minnie-mouse-bow? 😁

And thank you, we will. Just bad I already introduced her to the king of the genre...what next? Sandrock? SunHaven? Anyhow ...

[–] christian@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What I'm reading is he was right on the money about the pixel character being a more appealing love interest.

Wet moldy socks were a more appealing love interest.

[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] ChairmanMeow@programming.dev 49 points 1 day ago (7 children)

Whether a specific colour was green or yellow. We eventually looked up the RGB value to settle it, and as it turns out it is the exact shade that's halfway to yellow and halfway to green.

We were both equally correct in the end.

[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 11 points 1 day ago

So it was chartreuse.

[–] Username@lemmy.nz 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Was this a debate about tennis balls? My spouse and I have had this exact disagreement!

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[–] shittydwarf@lemmy.dbzer0.com 76 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (9 children)

My ex-girlfriend worked at a restaurant and they had an annual staff party which was just a house party at the manager's house. When we opened the door and started taking our shoes off one of the new server girls was shouting at the manager "Don't call me Lonestar!" and he was like "Yeah whatever Lonestar" and she screamed at the top of her lungs "DON'T CALL ME FUCKING LONESTAR!!!" and shoved him hard, he fell backwards and landed on his ass and she screamed a battle cry and started punching holes in the drywall, busting up her knuckles and bleeding everywhere. We put our shoes back on and just left. She got fired

[–] Estebiu@lemmy.dbzer0.com 57 points 2 days ago (4 children)

That's.. Not really a couple dispute, is it? Still, pretty funny lol

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[–] happybadger@hexbear.net 14 points 1 day ago

An ex wanted to break up because she was still in love with her ex. Her ex is in prison for decades after going on a rampage against homeless people and critically wounding at least a few. Live happybadger reaction: shrug-outta-hecks

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 34 points 2 days ago (18 children)

We disagreed for years about the color of our couch. I called it brown. He called it blue. It was a weird grayish brown colored couch, but because it was labeled "slate" when he bought it, he insisted it was blue. We then added a teal blue couch to our house which just solidified my "this is the brown couch" position. We do not, to this day, agree. Eventually we got rid of the couch.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 2 days ago

A similar debate with my partner is how I'm found out I'm colorblind lol

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[–] AbouBenAdhem@lemmy.world 53 points 2 days ago (12 children)

Whether apple stems are perpendicular or parallel to the surface of the fruit.

[–] grue@lemmy.world 28 points 2 days ago

Considering that it was about topology, that might very well be the smartest couple's dispute I've ever heard of.

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[–] ModernRisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com 40 points 2 days ago (3 children)

They had a whole stupid argument about… Cheese. It went from small arguing to actual conflict.

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