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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

My kink has never come up in vanilla conversation.

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 1 points 43 minutes ago

Mine does. Usually more so in one month than any others.

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

I can't pretend to be apalled, I just pretend I didn't hear it, and I have quite a lot of fetishes, with a lot of weird and/or gross ones among them.

[–] RubberElectrons@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

No I don't. 😎

[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 9 hours ago
[–] gazby@lemmy.zip 14 points 16 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 32 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Coward move. Stand up for yourself

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 47 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Sometimes it's good to let your freak flag fly, other times you have to pretend you didn't see that look on a coworkers face when someone said "Good Girl"

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

I'd be looking askance at whoever it was that said "good girl", TBH. I can't imagine saying that in a workplace to anyone who isn't a literal child.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 12 points 5 hours ago

It was actually said to a therapy dog that was there for the day, but I saw a reaction, then she saw me see the reaction, and we shared that look of "I know you know that I know you know" and we both didn't want to have further complications so it was never brought up.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 16 points 14 hours ago

Yeah, sometimes you gotta pretend you don't get mad leather vibes at the office Halloween party. Gotta leave your worldly awareness at the door. Just let Jenny in accounting be Cat Woman, vanilla style.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 190 points 1 day ago (6 children)

i was once with my kids at the park.

a mom my kids were playing with started talking to me.

she began complaining about tentacle hentai...

had to act like I never heard of that.

not sure if that counts as a normal conversation.

[–] FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 33 points 20 hours ago

Them gotdang’ol tentacles I tell you hwat.

[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 131 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The fact that a stranger/acquaintance thought that was an appropriate conversation in a park with kids around says a lot more about her than it does about you. I'd feel more comfortable around someone who secretly likes it than someone who openly talks about hating it.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 50 points 1 day ago (7 children)

I'd say she got undiagnosed autism or something. but then again, I have diagnosed autism and know not to talk about tentacle hentai to strangers

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[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 22 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Are you sure she wasn't "subtly" trying to bring it up to you to test the waters to see if you might want to get freaky?

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 13 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

probably, but the question is not which one, but how many STDs would be involved

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 14 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

The trick is to get enough STDs at the same time, that way they all kill each other.

[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 47 points 1 day ago (2 children)

What's there to complain about? Did she some how run out of tentacle hentai?

[–] ColdSideOfYourPillow@piefed.social 4 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

The lack of (consensual) tentacle-fucking creatures IRL is infuriating.

[–] seralth@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

Consentacles if you will

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 34 points 1 day ago (3 children)

how would you feel to learn about tentacle porn, and also that there are no fuckeable tentacle monsters in real life?

[–] Pazuzu@midwest.social 5 points 11 hours ago

No living tentacle monsters to fuck but there are plenty of tentacle shaped dildos out there

[–] Alwaysnownevernotme@lemmy.world 13 points 19 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 9 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

Can we agree that it is strange.

because those tentacles aren't doing anything, they are only playing with their beaks.

and getting eaten out by a sharp beak hurts my clitoris, and I am a cis dude.

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[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Ngl I typically just avoid or info dump, depending on the company. If they’re direct though I ain’t gonna lie. You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Though there have been times I have advice but that’s more “the kids are asking age appropriate questions.”

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 16 points 12 hours ago (3 children)

You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Ohh so that's what that phrase came from.

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

<.< Full disclosure, I made that up on the spot. And a quick google suggests there is no full saying, it means “you opened us up to more trouble/problems” where the worms are the trouble/problems in question.

[–] la_scriba@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 hours ago

Too late. We've just witnessed a false "the full saying" be born. It will be remembered alongside such classics as "oftentimes better than a master of none", and "satisfaction brought it back"

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Well played. It makes a lot of sense.

[–] Lesrid@lemm.ee 4 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Yeah hearing the full phrase is fun. Like "speak of the devil and so he shall appear".

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

I'm learning all sorts of things today :)

But you don't buy cans of worms?

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 70 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Oh no, that sounds terrible! Now let’s both take the BDSM Test to make sure we know what other kinks to steer clear of.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Now why did you have to go and post this? I guess I need to figure out what "submissive" and "rope bunny" mean now.

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 points 20 hours ago

A good time, typically.

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[–] supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz 72 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

gosh I would never choose to have that kink!

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[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

gosh i wish i had hair like that!

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